[tnch1978]

Hi all! I have been dating a man for a year and 8 months now. When we first started talking, he told me about his ex, who ruined their relationship by constantly cheating on him. Right around the time him and I started talking, she tried to get him back. Well, I found out this January 1st, that he was still seeing her as well. Now we aren't in a committed relationship, but have talked constantly about becoming serious. Well recently, she just found out about me, and they have been arguing a lot, and she has brought a knife to his house, as well as threatened to f**k up his house as well, still, this dude will not just cut her off completely. He puts me on a pedistool compared to her, but yet admits he still has feelings for her, but can't see the two of them in a committed relationship because there is no trust there, and he knows that he gets around. Recently, this crazy chick hacked into his Facebook account, and changed his status to "in a relationship". When he saw her account, she still has herself as being "single". All of the signs are there that she is nuts and that he just needs to leave her alone, but he is playing some game with her, which is totally immature, and in the meantime, my heart is with him, and the whole situation is unfair to me. I love this man, and I can see myself with him, but if he doesn't drop this crazy chick once and for all, I'm afraid it will be the end of us. She stalks him, so that when I go over his house, I can't even park in his driveway, or sometimes even on his street. It's really getting to be ridiculous and I just don't know what to do. I don't want to give up, especially with all of the time invested, I just wish he would open up his eyes and realize that I am a good woman, and have been this entire time, and let her go for good! What do I do?

[Homegirl 50]

You leave him alone. He can't take care of his old business. He is as messed up as she is because he has been playing games with her all this time.
Leave them alone. You will never win in the situation.