[theorignal]

Well I really don't know where to begin with this... I guess at the beginning..
I am one of two daughters to my father.
My father and mother split when I was about 2 she was a chronic drinker very abusive. We lived with her till about 03 in 99 she remarried to a man. This man was abusive to my mother causing her to drink and in return she would become abusive. He raped me when In 99 till 01 when he died. She got a new boyfriend later that year nice guy stayed by her side till she died this June. (He helped me ally threw the griving.
So in 03 when my dad fought to get custody of my sister and I I was very thankful to be out of a physically abusive home. My father was just starting to go threw a devorce with his 2ed wife because she didn't want my sister and I living with them. Before the marriage even was ended my dad started to see another woman shortly like I mean weeks she moved into the house with us. Of course she put up a front she was nice at first. Then the day came when I was told that they where to be married that weekend. I was told as we where sitting in the 99. I asked if I was invited thinking that I am my dads daughter shurrly I was to be invited. And she gave me the nastiest look and said no only close friends... that's when it began.
Till the age of 18 when I moved out. I was essential cindrella. I made my dads lunch because she q
Wouldn't I cleaned cooked yard work help with what ever I could. I know I was still young some times I strayed from doing chores but the only social life I had was going to my neighbors. I did any thing they asked. My sister on the other hand was a hellion and got in lots of trouble arrested drugs pregnant you name it.
My step mom has 3 older kids they all can not stand her. I do not expect them to be picking up the slack at all with her.
I see myself taking care of my dad he was diagnosed with cancer and had both of his thyriods take in out. Hes Tobago on a special diet. Among other things. He is 58 she is the same age she has an extencive amount of issues. She has a bad back only 50 ussage of her right arm and a bunch of other things. She is mentally unstable a few years back she downed a lot of sleeping pills and decided to make star patterns on her wrist my father s
Is the one that found her she went to the hospital and got all cleared up and sent home. Clearly a cry for attention. What you need to understand is this woman has claimed a horrable childhood. I do not know what happened and what didn't. But because what I went threw I can understand. I am bipolor and have manic depression or so they say I do not take any kind of medication. This woman made my teenage years a living hell. She es about anything and everything. The other day I asked my dad if he was happy his response was "sometimes". My dad is getting older and with his issues he needed help I am willing to help my husband and I and she is pushing us away from him. She doesn't take care of the house the way it should be. There are many things that need to be done that they can't do in there condition. And lets face it they arnt getting any younger. I lost my mom this year and I'm not losing my dad too.
I am only 21 I am married. No kids. I want to help my dad make his life comfortable as I can I want him to be able to stay in this house that he built till he dies I don't want to send him to a home even though I know he's not at the age that he needs one. But I can not deal with the stress this woman puts on me yelling at me for dumb she talks out of her and does not let you speak its her way or the highway. And as I see it if I'm going to help she needs to take it or leave it because I do not operate at her whim. I'm still young and I know I don't have a ton of life experience but I know I'm the only one that will help and I just don't know what to do I don't want to leave him here in this house with just her. And not to mention this is my childhood home. None of her kids where brought up here. Only my sister and I. I would like to keep this house in my family my dad built it from the ground up and if he dies and it goes to that wench I swear I am going to freak out because I know she's going to trash it and sell it. I really need advice on how to handle this.


I am sorry if there are errors and horrable punctuation I am on a touch screen and its bad for these long things.
Thank you for the advice hope to hear soon...