[dharma_gypsy]

I'm trying to see if its worth me trying to work this relationship out when his work compromises my happiness.
My boyfriends work is a very consuming, especially of energy. Because of it, are sex life is at stake. Also, I just graduated from college with a B.A. I don't make any money being a server, and the location I am at, happens to be a very wood works small town with a bunch of hippies an growers..

He really likes his job, and his co workers.. he makes a few dollars more than min wage plus tips.. really likes ihis hobby and town in general. He admitted he doesn't want to leave. In the beginning, I entertained the idea of both of us finding a city where we both can flourish, like San Francisco.. but he raher not...

Do I pretty much have to compromise my happiness to want to be with him? Even though our sex lilfe isn't great.. and all that jazzz I I wrote.. I'm sort of wondering what is the force that is making me stay??

[Alty]

do I pretty much have to compromise my happiness to want to be with him?

No, you shouldn't have to compromise your happiness, but then, neither should he.

You both want different things. He loves his job and doesn't want to leave it. You can't get a decent job in the town you're living in. So you sit down with him, tell him you love him, that you want to make things work, but that you can't stay in that town, you have to move. If he wants to go with you, you'd love that, but, if he doesn't, you understand.

Neither one of you should have to compromise what you want for the other.