[Love 2 Love]

I was in a relationship with a man whom I loved and cared about so much,when I met him he was in a newfound relationship shy of a month nothing yet serious.I met him we hit it off within a few weeks of dating I found out he was involved with someone.Well to make a long story short he was he lied at first then he later told me the truth about her,The now babymoma had felt insecure when he told her he met someone else that he fell in love with although they were still seeeing each other the relationship seemed to have fizzled in my eyes.The became pregnant within 3months of meeting him we tried to work on us but it ended he went back to her by the time their child was 5months we got serious again with only conversation 6months later he moved in we became closer than we were before,she didn't like me at all even though she didn't know me.The caused so much drama to my home she wouldn't let him see his child she sent false restraining orders to our house which later his went into effect he missed a courtdate due to working.I went to court for the false one she had sent to me but she never showed it was later dropped.There was a altercation with us he decided that we would take a break but within a week of leaving he moved back in with his child's mom the same lady that caused so many problems in our relationship.I am so hurt ashamed confused and in shock by all this,they weren't seeing each other at all for at least a yr when they were in court but as soon as we had a problem he went back to her I feel like I wasted so much time and energy on him.. I still love him he claims he loves me and I should give him a chance later he is just trying to be supportive for his child.Should I just never ever talk to him ever again and move on with my life or patiently wait like a fool?? I love him and love make you do some silly things.Im not sure I will ever trust him again,Someone please help me understand give it to me hardcore.

[christianf]

I believe that if there is not trust then there is no relationship because you are always going to want to know where he is, who he is talking to, what he really thinks and feels. I can understand him wanting to see his child but if I were him and I really loved you and my child I would have fought her for the child considering all the drama she must have put the child through with her actions while you and the father were living together. She is obvioulsy a bad influence on the child but the father seems as if he doesn't know what he really wants. I would say you should wait a few months but no more, if he plans on coming back and means it when he says he loves you he wouldn't delay coming back to you

[joypulv]

I don't see where she 'is obviously a bad influence on the child?' He's the one flitting back and forth. It sounds like he went back to her because he had no where else to go when you two had your fight. That's what happens when you fight and I assume you kicked him out, or one of you had to go somewhere. The child is enough of tug on his heartstrings that he is willing to take the mother along with the child. It's not your fault, but it's life, and you just have to accept it. He and she weren't making any effort at birth control, and that's irresponsible, and the man is as much to blame for that as the woman.