[darkstar360]

Hi, in summary I'm 21 years of age and my girlfriend is 20, we've been dating for 2 years and a couple of months now and one of our or mine main issue is our sex life. Over our relationship we've been having sex on average of once per week and a lot more in the beginning of the relationship. But over the past year it's been leading to once every 2 weeks or longer. Let me set off by stating that me and my girlfriend get along great together and both see each other together for a long time, (marriage), but the lack of sex espicially when married worries me because I'm guessing it will get worse.

-back to our sex life, it seems that she never wants to have sex. I know my girlfriend well and I know when she's in the mood and when she's not. And most of the time she isn't.as for sex, almost every time I initiate, but she has intiated several times. I try not to bug her about sex because she thinks its all I think about, but it builds up with me and seriously bothers me on an emotional level. The consistent answer is "im not in the mood" or "im tired." While I do tend to to ask a lot, I think it more leads to the lack of sex pushing me to a desperation to always ask.

- as for being not intament, I try very hard in our relationship to have a great time together and keep it exciting. We probably go out 3-4 times a week and have a great time.
- Im very touchy as you can say, I'm always touching her and kissing, but I feel like I'm forcing myself onto her while she is just "taking it". We've talked about this situation a lot and she just says she's not in the mood that much and its not that important to her.
- oh and it's the not the sex, she orgasms every time.
- I guess I'm just asking for input how to increase our sex life and any input if I'm not doing something or doing something the wrong way.

- oh and sorry if I'm random on my submission, kind of just ranted

[C0bra_M3nace]

Good tactic would be to stop asking her altogether. I think at this point she's just kind of annoyed at the fact. See sex, just like anything else, can get boring and overrated. From what you describe, I think she's kind of over the excitement of it.

If you can refrain from talking about it eventually it will become exciting again, like something that you don't do often. Sex at first was of course a lot more frequent because it was new and thrilling. Bring it back to this by acting as if it's some sort of taboo and shouldn't be done. It may take a while, it just all depends on how she reacts to it.

[Magpie95]

I agree with the above. However, it is also her age. Women can experience a drop in their libido in the early to mid-twenties. Don't let Girls Gone Wild fool you.. That is just sex for attention not out of desire. Lol. Its natural and has to do with a hormonal change within her. Every woman I know thinks something is wrong with them when this happens. She may be thinking that secretly to herself and feeling insecure about it. If you are still around when she turns 30... HOLD ON TO YOUR HAT! Ladies peak at 35 while guys peak at 18... just to paint a picture for you. In between there are highs and lows. I was like she was in my 20s for a few years. Then I turned 29... and oh boy.. Mentally, I turned into a 16 year old boy! Hang in there... its all part of life. Nothing wrong with you. Just age old battle of the sexes trying to understand one another.

-One woman's opinion