[atwitsend1]

This is the situation. My boyfriend and I were childhood sweethearts that reunited two years ago through Facebook. About ten months ago he moved in with my daughter and I. I'm going through a divorce and getting this new home was a fresh start to my new journey. Since the lease and utilities and all all the furnishings are mine, I look at this as my house. I have paid for the rent every month from my child support and all the other bills on my own. My boyfriend has helped maybe four months out of ten. Money is so strapped that I had to get food stamps for me and daughter.

He has two sons ( 9 &10 ) that he gets often. Here's the problem. They have no respect for anything. They come in and eat up everything in sight. One hour from the dinner table one of them is eating all the snacks up. Let me clarify their father doesn't buy groceries when they come. They are constantly running in the house. I have lots of glass and a curio cabinet that means a lot to me. I asked them constantly to stop but they won't. When I say something to my boyfriend about it he blows me off like it's no big deal. One of them has broken a collectible plate buy throwing a ball in the house.( No it's no replaceable.) My computer has been dropped and now won't charge right,(it also got a virus on it from him looking up porn), my bedroom dresser now has glitter glue on it where they thought it would be neat to draw on it. I have no privacy in my own bedroom. One walked in on me getting out of the shower. My daughter who is 14 can't stand them and it's causing a great deal of stress.

I have tried to talk to him but it goes in one ear and out the other. He says their just boys. I can't say anything to them without it causing a fight. He tells me I have an attitude and how my daughter is not an angel. I never said she was. He and I have different parenting skills. My child at least has respect for other peoples belongings. One of his boys came in and threw my daughters bag which usually (but thank God didn't) has her IPad in it. She yelled at him and my boyfriend got mad at her about it and has been ugly to her since.I can't handle this anymore. Am I in the wrong for feeling this way?

On another issue, my daughters father and I are still friends. We don't communicate much unless it involves her. My boyfriend has a fit when it comes to him. I told him that he was a part of my life for 17 years and you don't erase them. It's not like we talk on a daily basis. We're talking making once every two months. But on the other hand he and his ex wife talk or text on a daily basis. He says it's always about the boys or money but I have been there when we pick them up and she talks about other things. No sooner we leave she's texting him. We live two hours from his family and he works out there everyday. He comes home late all the time saying he went to see the boys whether its football practice or what not.

Now my lease is coming up and he wants me to move out there where I will know no one. He says he wants his kids more. I'm pulling my hair out thinking about it. He's from a small town where I will be bumping into his ex all the time. Should I add she doesn't know me but has made my name mud out there. Sometimes I feel like I'm being used. He doesn't have the money to get his own place and it feels like he's riding my tail feathers. I will have the money for deposits and utilities.

I'm just looking for some input from unbiased people...

[talaniman]

Get rid of him and his kids!! Unbiased enough? Who needs all this stress and drama.