[Mahak1234]

Hi all
Me and my boyfriend met on a train... we started talking and loving each other.. he has been always possessive about me and he is no doubt one woman man... after 2 years of talking and meeting... we got married without telling our parents.. that time he was studying.. we planned to tell families after he finishes his study and gets a job... but unfortunately after a few days of marriage.. our families got to know.. and actually I am 5 years elder than him and I was married earlier too before him and it was his first.. so things got messed up and he became just silent and did what his family wanted... his family forced me to give him divorce but I didn't give him divorce... he didn't say anything to me directly.. just said once or twice that he don't want to be with me.. but I think it was just bcos of stress...
I always felt he truly loves me... but he didn't contacted me for 4 years and then I thought I should give him divorce... we didn't even talk or meet once in this four years... then when his family asked me again for divorce,I mean not directly to me.. we had mediocre people in between,I agreed on the cost of 5 lakh alimony... I didn't want money.. I just thought they people won't give money and I won't need to give him divorce...
But they gave money with in 2 days.. so I felt he wants the divorce and hate me so much that he has given money to get rid of me... so I went to court and he was there too... but our families were with us so we didn't get chance to talk.. not even hi hello... then judge called us after 6 months for finally approving the divorce...
In these six months he didn't call...
Then after six months I went to court again and he was there too... he was looking at me so lovingly and continuously... I felt if he loves me then why don't he try to talk... but again we signed and didn't talk.. and then judge called us after a week...
So one day before that week ends.. he called me in night... and said hello and how are you... he somehow arranged to take my number from my dad... as I changed number long ago...
But I yelled at him.. that why he is calling me now... I didn't listen to him what he is saying... and cut off the phone then he messaged that he just called to say sorry... I thought it's a trick to get that 5 lack back...
Then next day we went to court and finally got divorced.. we didn't get a chance to talk.. not a single second alone...
Then on the night of divorce he called me again.. and said sorry and said that he always loved me and he didn't want the divorce.. his family told him that I want divorce.. and we started talking again and he said he has to give some exam for better job and then we will get married again.. and now again we are talking.. meeting and doing everything... and he is saying he going to marry me only... and I love him a lot...
But he never gifted me anything... in these 7 years he never gave me anything... he just say and ask but never give anything... earlier he was studying and I was working so I used to spend every time... but now he earns and spend on him but he never give anything to me and it hurts... it is not that I want anything or I don't have anything... but its just a feeling... may be sometimes I think he is little immature... he is 28 and I am 33...
Some times I feel what if he has made it a habit not to spend on me and if after marriage he remains the same then all going to mess up again...
I am just so confused...

[Fr_Chuck]

He will be the same ( most likely worst) after marriage, now is the time he is more likely to spend money on you. After marriage he will not do as much as he does now.

[Mahak1234]

He will be the same ( most likely worst) after marriage, now is the time he is more likely to spend money on you. After marriage he will not do as much as he does now.

I am confused that he truly loves me or not??
I sometimes feel what if he doesn't marry me again... or he is just playing with me//