[live4livin]

I signed on to vent about this situation with my now ex-girlfriend, I felt like I needed some advice from people who have no idea who I am or the girl I used to be with. Here is the deal, we have been dating on and off for about three years and every time we have broken up it has been when I have gone away for school and she has stayed home (with the exception of a few weeks ago when things went really wrong). But it seemed like we were perfect for each other, she was a great friend of mine as well as girlfriend. But she is nineteen and a freshman in college and I am 21 and a junior, we now go to the same school because I transferred after two years of school hopping. We had been dating for nearly six months straight since we began going to the same school, and everything was great for the most part until about three weeks ago when we started fighting quite a bit (you know the drill) from there we were just at each other's throats for awhile. So I told her that maybe she needed to go out and experience college without me because she is nineteen and that is what everyone needs to do when they are young because they don't know what they want. She denied and said she loved me and knew she wanted to be with me so I said I would try to make it work if that is what she really wanted because I didn't want to be with anyone else either.

The fighting persisted, then about a week ago, I went home for a concert while she stayed up here to go to a dance for her sorority (she went with another guy, which we had talked about before and I was cool with) but since we were kind of fighting, I was a little worried about what she would do when I was gone. Well, I texted her all weekend and she didn't respond, then finally, on Sunday night she said (via text message) that we should take a week off. I agreed, but we all know that breaks are b.s. but I went along with it. Then that next Tuesday, I heard she is telling people she is single, so I called her and asked what was going on and she said that she thought I understood that she wanted to be on her own in the text message... are you kidding me? I had this horrible feeling that she had cheated on me that weekend and I said I wanted to talk to her face to face about some things and she said she couldn't and wouldn't do it (came up with excuses and what not). So I asked her over the phone if she cheated and she said no. She has been doing everything to avoid me and it is driving me crazy, I hear from people that she is hooking up with other guys and it kills me. I need to know for sure if she cheated on me that weekend so I can just forget her and move on. She has completely changed into someone that I feel like I don't even know anymore and that is what hurts so bad. I just want to know how anyone feels about this situation because I really need some help, I can't take this much longer. Any advice would help, or pointers to help me get through this. I can't stop thinking about her and the whole situation.

[X-stream87]

Firstly I am sorry to hear about your situation.

Now to get to the issues at hand, firstly I know you probably feel very strongly about this girl but if something has happened to cause you two to break up several times throughout the course of your relationship then obviously there something that deffinitly separates the two of you from each other, and that should let you know that you shouldn't be together.

Secondly, you mentioned that you want to know if she cheated so that you can move on. Let me ask you something though if she did cheat, would it be any easier to move on? Right now your just looking for a reason to feel better about this situation but trust nothing is an instant cure for a break-up, only time will make you feel better.

Finally, If your hearing about her doing stuff with other guys I know that is probably incredible tough to stomach right now, but just push yourself away from the drama and I understand it is easier said then done, but it's the only way you will feel better don't give her any type of reaction to play upon.

For now just concentrate all your energy on school and trying to forget about this girl, it will take time and you will go through a lot of emotions but in the end everything will work out for the best I promise just cut off all contact with your ex and time will take its place and help you heal

Best of luck to you.