[Valodia]

Please I'm asking help from everybody here..
I Brock up with my girlfriend from 1 month ago.. We trully loved each other and we brock up because of my family . And after Brock up my family fixed that problem after they saw me I'm in really bad situation . But at that time I asked her to come back.. She didn't want.. Because of 1 another guy! I was shocked.. And that guy said to her that he love her and he want to take her away from here to make her forgetten me! She said I'll do everything just to forget you. And she said I'll go from here to another country to take a rest.. So she go with him.. but we still in touch.. Sending messages.. She saying every time ( I can't believe you any more ) ( I can't trust you any more ) knowing that I promised her to marry.. But she said you came too late!
Please I need help

[JudyKayTee]

Please I'm asking help from everybody here..
I Brock up with my girlfriend from 1 month ago.. We trully loved each other and we brock up because of my family . And after Brock up my family fixed that problem after they saw me I'm in really bad situation . But at that time I asked her to come back .. She didn't want .. Because of 1 another guy!! I was shocked .. And that guy said to her that he love her and he want to take her away from here to make her forgetten me !! She said I'll do everything just to forget you. And she said I'll go from here to another country to take a rest .. So she go with him .. but we still in touch.. Sending messages .. She saying every time ( I can't believe you any more ) ( I can't trust you any more ) knowing that I promised her to marry .. But she said you came too late !!
Please I need help

You can't make somebody love you, and you can't make somebody who is finished with a relationship come back into the relationship.

You chose your family over her and she's not going to take a chance that that will happen again.

I'd leave her alone. If she were your girlfriend would you want the old boyfriend contacting her?

[smoothy]

You don't get her back if she doesn't want to come back.

Also if things were so wonderful... you wouldn't have broken up.

So its time to grow a pair, and start looking for someone better... consider this one a lost cause.

[JudyKayTee]

You don't get her back if she doesn't want to come back.

Also if things were so wonderful....you wouldn't have broken up.

So its time to grow a pair, and start looking for someone better....consider this one a lost cause.

I always wonder what people expect when they break up with someone... and then change their minds.

[smoothy]

I always wonder what people expect when they break up with someone ... and then change their minds.

Its more of the wanting to stick with the known rather than chance the unknown... no matter how bad it was they seem to think it could always be worse rather than believing its more likely to be better if they move on.

Same reason abused spouses stay with their abusers... or people being abused by the people they are dating stick with the last people they should want to be around.

Plus they actually believe they or the other person will change if they want it hard enough.

But it never happens... sometimes years pass before they finally undertand the obvious and years they will never get back are lost.

[Valodia]

I didn't chose my family over her.. Because I just came back to her 2 days after Brock up! But she said you came too late! This is what I can't understand if we love each other! She crazilly changed !
She said let me alone .
And I can't understand Something..
Every moment she changing mind ! 1 time she coming back to me and after 1 day she don't want.. And it's painful ! And nowadays she just avoiding me! But I feel she will come back to me . And I don't know if this feeling coming truth or not..
Guys it's really worst time in my life

[smoothy]

Read what we said... its clear SHE doesn't want you.

Nobody said its going to be easy, because it isn't... but its one of those things you are going to have to go through several times before you meet someone that really is good for you. How else would you know who is good and who isn't unless you date a few losers first..

Her reasons don't matter... the fact she did it is enough.

This is one of those things that you have to do because it builds character.

I haven't heard anything about her that would make me want to be around her... but then, I've learned those life lessons, went through this sort of thing with many women for different reasons... and because I did... and learned what I should NOT have to put up with, I eventually met my wife and I then KNEW it was right so I never have to deal with this sort of thing from her because she doesn't play those games.

Do I ever have disagreements with my current wife? Certainly... but they are never about petty things...

And trust me... having learned what I learned... I am GLAD I broke up with every one of those women... because life with them would NOT be nearly as good as I have it now.

[JudyKayTee]

I didnt chose my family over her.. Because I just came back to her 2 days after Brock up !! But she said you came too late!! This is what I can't understand if we love each other! She crazilly changed !
She said let me alone .
And I can't understand Somthing ..
Every moment she changing mind ! 1 time she coming back to me and after 1 day she don't want .. And it's painful ! And nowadays she just avoiding me! But I feel she will come back to me . And I don't know if this feeling coming truth or not ..
Guys it's really worst time in my life

We've all experienced the "worst time in [our] life."

You broke up with her. You put her through the "breaking up" pain. Now you want her back, she doesn't want you, and you are experiencing the "worst time" in your life.

Maybe it's for the best. Maybe it's not. As a woman, I don't want to be with a guy who can't make up his mind - are we broken up? Are we together?

I thought you said you broke up with her because your family had issues. You broke up. Then your family didn't have issues. Then you wanted to get back with her.

I'm on her side.

[Valodia]

Guys I understand you what you said and what you meant..
In the last day when we met..
She gave it to me some ring and she said give it to me back when I'll come back.. And it's meant to me that she will come back to me.. But with the changing of her mind nowadays I'm so scary..
I really don't know that everything was dream or real!
The question is what can I do in this case?

[smoothy]

Stick with her then you deserve all the misery you end up with as a result of her behavior.

My advice is the same... walk away while you have a chance.

You aren't a good match... and the things that bother you now... you will grow to really HATE about her in the future.

If you keep going back for more punishment... then you deserve to get the punishment.

People don't do this to each other if they really care for each other and they are a good match.

[Valodia]

Thank you so much for your advices..
Im really have a stress enough and pain enough and hard time enough because of her.. I just want to remove her from my mind and heart and to be strong on this.. But it's not a easy .and I feel that it can't be. Because she is always in my mind and heart! I just want to go out from this situation but I can't , because I remember her everywhere ! Even I'm dreaming her every night ! It's really painful! I just can't know about future...

[Valodia]

Thank you so much for your advices..
Im really have a stress enough and pain enough and hard time enough because of her.. I just want to remove her from my mind and heart and to be strong on this.. But it's not a easy .and I feel that it can't be. Because she is always in my mind and heart! I just want to go out from this situation but I can't , because I remember her everywhere ! Even I'm dreaming her every night ! It's really painful! I just can't know about future...

[Valodia]

Thank you so much for your advices..
Im really have a stress enough and pain enough and hard time enough because of her.. I just want to remove her from my mind and heart and to be strong on this.. But it's not a easy .and I feel that it can't be. Because she is always in my mind and heart! I just want to go out from this situation but I can't , because I remember her everywhere ! Even I'm dreaming her every night ! It's really painful! I just can't know about future...

[JudyKayTee]

Thank you so much for your advices..
Im really have a stress enough and pain enough and hard time enough because of her.. I just want to remove her from my mind and heart and to be strong on this .. But it's not a easy .and I feel that it can't be. Because she is always in my mind and heart !! I just wanna go out from this situation but I can't , because I remember her everywhere ! Even I'm dreaming her every night ! It's really painful !! I just can't know about future ...

I know very few people who haven't been in your place at one time or another - it hurts and the pain goes on and on.

You do survive and with luck you come out of it stronger than when you went into it.

I am sorry it played out this way. You do sound upset and lost. Well, you can always hope - give her some space and time. If she's hurt and angry, give her time to calm down.