[chiikibabii15]

My partner and I have been sexually active for about a year and a half now, but I feel like being intimate with each other is getting boring.. any ideas we could do to spice things up a bit?

[Alty]

How old are you both?

[chiikibabii15]

How old are you both?

He is 23 and I am 20

[Alty]

Well it really depends on what you both like. You can get some great ideas reading books about sexual positions. The Kama Sutra is a very popular one, they even have videos, not at all like porn. When my husband and I watch them we never get to the end. In fact, I have no idea what happens for the last part of any of the videos. :)

Have the two of you sat down and talked about this? Have you told him that you'd like to spice things up?

[Curlyben]

Getting boring after merely 18 months, well there's really very little hope for a lasting sexual relations...

[smoothy]

Getting boring after merely 18 months, well there's really very little hope for a lasting sexual relations...

Exactly... if its hard for them to keep it fresh after 18 months... whats it going to be like for them at 10 years... 20 years... etc...

And yes even after 20 years it can still be fresh and exciting if you are with the right person.

[Cat1864]

Since you also have a question about how likely it is that you could be pregnant, I am going to recommend that you communicate with your partner. Unprotected sex is not a good way to 'spice up' your sex life. Children tend to be libido limiters especially if there are already issues in the relationship.

Whatever you choose to do to spice things up needs to take into account the method of birth control you are using. Getting caught up in teasing or role playing and forgetting to put on a condom can become a life altering 'oops'. However, putting on the condom doesn't have to take away from the fun.

Open discussions about what you both like and things you want to try is a good place to begin. Talk to him about not following a routine. Don't get caught in the 'porn formula' of sex. If you watch porn, you will see that most sexual encounters follow a set pattern. Clothes off, hands/toys on genitalia, oral sex, intercourse, end. Many couples seem to get caught up in that pattern or one close to it. If you see a pattern developing in when and how you have sex, try changing the pattern.

Arousal for most women begins long before we get close to having sex. If you aren't aroused before you take your clothes off and are expecting foreplay to get you ready, then sex will begin to seem dull and boring. You are expecting your body to arouse your mind instead of your mind stimulating your body.

Make certain that you and your partner are not thinking of sex as a race. Intimacy is a journey. Take time to enjoy the scenery and the sensations. Short cuts and 'quickies' can be fun, but they shouldn't be the usual. Knowing what gives your partner intense pleasure does not mean you have to rush to those spots or actions. Remember that the entire body especially the brain is an erogenous zone.