[chichi555]

Disclaimer: I’m sorry this is such a long post, but I really need someone to here me out and give some thoughtful advice. TY :)!

Here’s a little info about my relationships: I have never been in one. Yep… I have been single since the time I was born lol and I’m 17. But I guess I have learned to deal with it. Anyway, there have been some major changes this past school year (I was a junior). For the first time a guy that I liked actually liked me back (and the first time I had guys like me all together lol), but I guess I was sending the wrong signals, so we just stayed friends. Instead, he went out with a close friend of mine, which I had no problems with. And during that time, this boy and I would text each other, laugh in class together and just have fun like any normal friends would. I actually thought that I found a true guy best friend, but I guess not. Everything was cool until soccer season (which starts in Jan.) when he admitted that he still had feelings for me and that he liked me still and thought I was beautiful. Now, I’m not going to lie, I did think it was flattering and I kind of liked him back. But deep down inside I knew that the situation was wrong so I never acted upon it (You can’t love a GF and like another girl at the same time, you know? Especially, if that girl’s your GF’s friend). OK to make long story short, this situation kind of got Dramatic (w/ a capital D), per se. I told my friend (the girlfriend), she got mad at him, but took him back the next day (yeah, I don't know what he told her, but I think it's a lie). This boy and I eventually agreed to be nothing more than friends but up until now, I have not said a single word to him since school ended (partly because I was sick…) I feel like he lied to not only my friend but to me in a way. He created all this unnecassey drama and excused it as being an “emotional person” (basically,he couldn’t decide if he liked me or if he loved her __). What’s worse was the fact that my friend actually took him back. I know people have different ways of dealing with situations but… come on, really? Because of him, I’m just done with boys and their idiotic ways. I know not all boys are like this but, I think it would be best if I let God give me someone instead of searching for them( sorry to throw religion in here). But was I wrong to give distance and to cut him off like that? I really do need advice… thanks for reading!

P.S. I don’t normally go around asking people for advice but I figured this would be the best place :)

[Homegirl 50]

I think you did the right thing. What the boy tried to do was wrong.
The right one will come along.
I wish you well.

[0rphan]

I am so sorry you are going through this right now, sadly we all do at some point in our lives.You took the moral high ground which is very hard to do in this situation... you were 100% right to do so,thinking of your friend first sadly it is not always appreciated or realised.You can be sure that the boyfriend will step out of line again... some lads are just like that and do not deserve decent people like yourself.

I know right now you feel bad but it will pass.. I promise... there will be someone just around the corner when you least expect it just right for you,someone who will spoil you and treat you in the special way you deserve.

Don't feel for one minute that you have missed out on this boy... you have had a lucky escape.. truly.

Your friend will need your shoulder to lean on when he does the same again... and have no doubt he will.

So chin up and smile... positive vibes