[melpietsch]

I've started to gain weight since my fiancé and I got together. We've been together for 5 years and have had a child together. In the past he's been abusive and while I was pregnant he was cheating on me until (for some unknown reason) it came to an erupt halt.

I forgave him but since then he isn't intimate with me (rarely) and it's been 2 yrs since his infidelity. It makes me question if he's cheating on me again or if I've gotten so fat that he doesn't find me attractive.

He's no skinny either, but he knows I love him it just sucks that I've given up so much, morally and psychologically. Can someone please give me your opinion?

[talaniman]

Maybe you have given up too much, and not gotten enough in return. Enough of that! Make yourself a better person, one that YOU love and appreciate, and are happy with since Dumbo doesn't know how.

Do for yourself to love yourself, and don't depend on him to do it for you. Now make a plan that doesn't depend on him.

Do you work? Have family and friends to support you? Don't let Dumbo drag you down.

[BethVader]

I doubt it's your weight gain that is the problem,
If he loved you (and only you) he would find you
Sexually attractive no matter what.
It sounds like he is cheating still, and you would be
Advised to leave him and have some quality Me-Time.
**Never stay in a bad relationship for a child, all you will
Be teaching your child is bad habits that will follow them
Into adulthood. Would you advise your own grown-up child
To stay with someone who cheats on them? Probably not.