[forest1163]

Where to begin.

Well I'm a 19 yr old guy and a virgin. The issue is that it's really bothering me, I'm actually losing sleep over the issue and it's now gotten to a point where it's affecting my daily life.

Now I've had girl friends before, made out, groped and the likes but haven't gone 'all the way'. I've been close but every time we start taking our clothes off we get disturbed. Now this has happened with 3 different girls and no they are not one night stands.

Now I'm not afraid to have sex but it just hasn't happened and it is now starting to become an issue for me. I am always hearing about all my mates getting it off or trying new positions(both guys and girls) just to add to the pressure. The only funny part is that everyone I know, my parents included think I'm a real player and get laid frequently. But that's not who I am or my thing... no offence to people who do it, good on ya's :P I usually just go along with the stories...

Even if they see me leave a club or pub with a chick we usually talk or they are too pissed to have sex and I'm the nice guy who helps them in a cab then makes my way home.

Now I'm not quite sure what I should do... wait until I'm in a committed relationship which could be who knows when or just get it over with. I really just want to get it over with but am not 100% sure how I should go about it. Should I just try and hook up with a girl at a club? I really just don't want to feel like I'm taking advantage of some drunk chick..

I'm just at the point where it is affecting my life and I need to do something about it.

Any ideas or advice?

Thanks,

[Fr_Chuck]

How many kids do you want by various women you don't really care for ?

Would you rather have 20, 30 or 40 percent of your paycheck taken before you get it for the next 20 or so years?

How do you explain perhaps that certain STD to the lady you finally fall in love with.

Why is most likely the best thing you have a worry to you?

[CravenMorhead]

Don't worry about it. In the end it doesn't really matter. I was a virgin until I was 19. Didn't have a serious sex life until I was 21.

What is happening right now is that you're jealous that other people are getting some and you're not. It feels like you're missing out on something in life. You are, but that isn't the point. You're also missing out on being a professional basketball player too.

The thing is that it will happen. If you put too much importance on it then it will, as you have seen, cause you stress and when it comes to actually losing your cherry you could have anxiety issues. Just continue the way you're going. You'll find the right woman. The time will be right. You will have sex. Just relax and Be confident in yourself and the rest will follow.