[Milfy1906]

Im planning a nice sit down tonight with my boyfriend of 3 years. But lately he's been acting kind of strange. For instance, he hasn't approached me to have sex in 2 weeks. He is constantly on these 3 porn sites, Friday he wouldn't look me in the eyes.. hes not an affectionate person. But why is he acting so distant? Could he be looking for more? Is he unhappy with me? What shall I say in this "talk" I'm approaching him with tonight?

~ Confused

[valinors_sorrow]

I would first ask if, in his opinion, its important for two people to get out on the table things that aren't helping to create a happy relationship. IF he agrees, then you can decide who is going first. Make it clear that you want to hear about what you are doing too but it needs to be talked about as separately as possible from what he is doing. Designate your turn and his turn. This way you can avoid the old "you did this so I did that" round and round mix up. Whoever its about, it needs to remain about them. Be sure to let him know when he does xxx, it makes you feel xxx. Ex: when he won't look you in the eye, it makes you think something not good is up. Then you can gently say "I experienced you ducking my eyes last Thursday so is there something up?"

He will either openly talk with you or not. But try not to accuse or pressure, those are very counterproductive.