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    Lauren_Bryce Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Jul 22, 2012, 10:09 PM
    Bi and I like a straight girl...
    Im Lauren! Im 13, and I need so much help. Let me tell you my story!

    It was 4 years ago when I was in the 5th grade and on the play ground with my friends at school. We are/were just a couple of punk kids that want to mess with people. So we come across these 4th graders that are a group of girls. We start to mess with them and I will admit we were being jerks.

    There was one girl in the group that really caught my eye and we instantly "hated" each other. For about a year we went on to not like each other, but then we started really talking and discovered we had a lot in common and became good friends. I got her phone number and we started to text and then hang out of school. I soon found out that I was falling hard for this girl.

    We were such good friends and I really started to love her more than my other friends. I talked about her so much my friends didn't want to hang out with me anymore. I was obsessed with this girl and I still am.

    Since then we've almost grown apart. Im lucky if I get to talk to her for a couple minutes a day now.. I told her a long time ago how I felt and she said she was OK with it but it just doesn't seem that way all the time. I need some way to get through to her that I think she's the most beautiful thing that walked the earth and I don't want anybody but her. Its been 4 years and Im still in love with the same girl that I was in 5th grade. Now I'm going into 8th and she's going into 7th.

    I seriously need help to get her to like me. Please help me... Thank you.
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    Jul 22, 2012, 10:33 PM
    That's not how people are wired you can't make her fall for you romantically. Looks like you need to appreciate the friendship you have. Because she's straight now matter how much she likes you she just can't see you romantically.
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    Jul 23, 2012, 05:30 AM
    You can no more make her want you for romance, than a boy could make you want him.

    You will ruin a great friendship trying, and this is why many gays get a bad rap, they want to try to push their desires on others.
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    Jul 23, 2012, 08:54 AM
    You can't make this girl like you. She is straight. If you respect her and the friendship, respect the fact that she is straight and leave her alone.

    You are acting like an obsessed and desperate person and that is not attractive to anyone, straight or otherwise.
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    Jul 23, 2012, 10:31 AM
    Like everyone else here said, you can't really make this girl like you. You definitely have a large crush on this girl, and as you told her how you feel (how long ago was it?) and you know she does not reciprocate these feelings, then it would be best to get over her.

    If, as you are, finding this hard, then you should try and talk to her! Not with a relationship in mind however, you may have to get over this idea, but becoming a closer friend MAY help you get over her; this sounds weird, but it seems that being away from her and not talking to her is making you ever more desperate. Find some common ground with her, and you may find, as you have harboured feelings for her for a long time, your feelings may begin to fade.

    It sounds odd, but sometimes becoming closer (in this case again) can help you.
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    Jul 23, 2012, 11:27 AM
    I don't think you ought to talk to her, I think you need to leave her alone. I don't think you have the discipline to just talk to her.
    Going no contact is what you need to do so you can get over this girl.

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