[wife2012]

I have been married for 18 years we have 2 kids. It was great at first. 5 years ago he moved out of our house and found a girl and told me he didn’t love me so leave him alone and her. Well I didn’t. So I called her husband and talked to him then she told my husband she couldn’t see him anymore. He came home one night, he got drunk and sat on the floor and cried and said he could talk to her about anything all his man problems.

2 years later I got pregnant with a boy, his only boy. He was happy for a while then it started. He treats my 14 year old daughter bad when he is angry. He said its because she reminds him of me, his wife. What I don’t get how can he say he love me then leave me, and say he’s in love with her, and then now say he loves me again?

He is angry all the time. He is just not happy. I always wonder if he still loves her. Help

[joypulv]

When someone asks total strangers if her husband loves her or not, I feel pretty sure that she herself has some serious problems communicating. Of course we have no idea if he loves you, or her, or both of you, or what. Of course it's possible for someone to have conflicted feelings. Of course it's possible to love 2 people. He can love you for the many years you've shared and he can love her for what he thought she could give him that was lost with you - maybe there was something there, maybe not (after all, she's married too). Maybe he only came back to you because she kicked him out. Again, how would we know? Sit down with him when you are both calm and able to talk it out, and find out where you both want to be and with whom for the next 45 years.

[talaniman]

I think he has impulse control, and anger management issues, and unless he wants help then you have little choice but to boot him out on his arse, as you should have when he left to have an affair with a married female.

Is he willing to get help? Are YOU?