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ratchasi · Jul 20, 2012, 07:38 AM

This guy as far I saw him and being with him for four years... I'll tell about him now... I want an serious judgment please..! Please don’t hesitate to read fully... please...

He was brought up by his parents and his dad is working in a different place... he will see his dad only during holidays... he told that he loves his parents lot... in his 12th grade it was the first that he had drinks without his parents knowledge (apart from south Indian people for other states and other country people it’s not such a big issue). Then he started to have drinks whenever he wishes... he loved a girl in his 12th grade and spoke with that a lot... she was his classmate but later it was found by her parents and she got married to someone else... he then caught by his parents and his parents scolded him a lot... he felt that he hurt his parents lot...

Then after 12th grade he moved to college... there he started to continue his drinking habit again with his friends in the name of birthday party... he started watching sex movies and other xxx movies... he did this everything in hostel... while attending class he used to be a very silent boy... after his 2nd year he again proposed a girl in his college, but that girl refused... but still he was in love with her but didn't disturb her... instead he used come in front of her and move away as though he didn't watch her... this disturbed that girl and she started loving him... in second year he was again caught in hostel for drinking and this was known by his parents... he felt for it... but even after he didn't stop his drinks habit and felt like at this age only he can enjoy... later during his final the girl accepted his love... he too started speaking with her... he used to speak about kisses and other sex related things to that girl but when she said not to speak about that now before marriage... he will reply as that she was his wife and he can share his feelings with her only... later it continued for some days...

He one day confused to that girl saying that while he was in drunken state and having anger on this girl for not accepting his love he proposed a girl but he feels that he has done wrong and told sorry to that girl... he also said that he stopped talking to that whom he proposed in drunken state after knowing that this girl is in love with him...

The girl also forgave him since she was the reason for that act... days went happily after that he started speaking how will he have sex with her and mentally they had sex with each other...
But during the end of college days the boy got password of mail from that girl and deleted all the messages thy both shared each other and photos that he gave to that girl everything was deleted completely...
During the last days of college the boy said to that girl through other person that he didn't love her itself... when the girl asked then why did he speak about future together and everything the boy simply answered that " you spoke so I spoke I myself dint start"...
Now the girl is very much depressed... she was still in love with that boy... she couldn’t think of someone in her life after living with that boy mentally and having lost her sex to that boy mentally...
She thinks it’s a wrong thing to marry someone else even after all these happened... she has decided to commit suicide once she goes away from her parents...
So please predict the boy's character and a girl's character...

The girl is me and the guy is whom I love still... please gimme some replies...

Fr_Chuck · Jul 20, 2012, 10:05 AM

Girl sounds like she had her chance, ( not sure why she would want a drunk and someone with little values) but anyway, you don't get second or third chances often, so she learns and moves on

COOKIE MONSTER · Jul 20, 2012, 05:54 PM

If he loved you he wouldn't of treated you this way
You sound very angry,And so you should be but don't destroy yourself or your life because of him.
He is very stupid and immiture
You need to get on with your life I know it will be hard but you will get over him and what he did

ratchasi · Jul 21, 2012, 02:16 AM

Originally Posted by COOKIE MONSTER

If he loved you he wouldn't of treated you this way
You sound very angry,And so you should be but don't destroy your self or your life because of him.
He is very stupid and immiture
you need to get on with your life i know it will be hard but you will get over him and what he did

But after this I still love him and couldn't take my mind out of his tots... I tried all way to frgt him even pills but nothing worked out... please help me I beg you... I went to pychiatrist everything but nothing worked out and it all ended up in tears... each day morning I pray god to kill me soon and everyday only tears remain thinking of him... I love him more than anything and I am mad at him... without him I cannot think of a life... there is no way I can think of someone else in his position where I kept him in my heart... I love him lots even after all the pain he gave to me... only tears remin in my life now... please help me beg you... each word what ever we spoke remains me always...
When it comes to foreign culture it may look craze to tell that I lost myself to him through mentally but I can't imagine a life other than him in my life and I can't live with someone by doing and living the same thing what I have lived with him... I can't cheat others and cheat myself...

COOKIE MONSTER · Jul 21, 2012, 03:08 AM

How long is it since this happened and how old are you?

ratchasi · Jul 21, 2012, 03:37 AM

Originally Posted by COOKIE MONSTER

How long is it since this happened and how old are you??

He proposed me 2 yrs back and I accepted him last dec but he knows that I am in love with him before I spoke to him... I am 22 nw... we wer in a plan to tell our classmates after we join in a job as we both gt placed in same company so we can tell everyone later... we planned to tell everyone on the day he proposed me... but suddenly everything shattered and everything was changed upside down... it looks lik a dream that all these happened... he is my life... we used to chat night and day... I felt like I am living my life with him... and he is the one made for me... and still now I feel the same in my heart my souls wants him alone no one else... he sent me his parents photos and his photos... and asked me to send my pphotos I sent him my photos my parents and many photos... he aslways ll say that he want my photo with no one around me and only me... I sent him many... whenever he talks with me he alwys ll tell that he is chatting me by seeing my photo who is going to be his wife and I am his wife... I felt I lived my life with him and felt he is my husband... we planned many things for our future everything and even about sex and our children and children names... sumtyms he used to ask me that why I love him so much... I love him I feel like he is the one for me... but dono what happened suddenly everythin changed... he knows that I am possessive on him lot... during the last day when he said that he didn't love me... I told one of his friend what happened so far... tis person is the one who always speaks about him to me tat I should accept his love... then that boy spoke to the one I love that why he did like this and why he said he didn't love me... for tat he has said tat tere s a prob in his family and he wants to take care of that and he can't evn think of marriage at anytym in his lyf... he has already tld about his family prob to me and took a plan to solve tat first and after we can marry as a 5 yrs... so after 5 yrs we decide to tell our parents and marry with parents acceptance... after speaking all these donno what happened suddenly he started to hate me and now he has blocked me in fb no messages no mails no contacts bt still he s happy nw wit frns... I don't have strength to see the one I love marrying someone else and doing and enjoyinn all those stuffs which we talked... please I beg you to help me die... I love him I will love him till my last breath... please help me... acc to me love is nt two bodies getting attracted its more then tat... no reasons nothing bt still loving... I didn't see his facial attraction or his family back grounf or his way of or to have sex or dressing or the so and so stuffs I loved him and I still love him... but I know there is no one to help me in this except god... and even god is playing in my life... I don't have anymore strngth in my body and mind... day by day I am going worse my mind is going worse... I made my parents believe that I'm normal but actually I'm nt day by day my love fr him is increasing and m dying deep inside waiting fr my death...

In the days before I spoke having anger on me fr sum reason that I am showing my love to him frankly and since to all other boys in my class and not to him having possesive on me, he gt anger on me... in drunken state he has proposed a girl and tat girl has accepted him... but later he realised his mistakes and told everything to that girl and stopped talking to her... he told me this frankly and asked whether can I accept him even after that and asked me sorry... I told him since he realised his mistakes I am not ready to lose him in any way I love him lots and he is my entire life... I forget him and he said thanks fr accepting him fr his mistakes and he also that tis shld nt become a bigger issue after our marriage so that's y I told you now itself... I felt happy fr him and started to love him more... we wer very happy and daily through he used speak about kisses and hugs with me every time... after a few days he said that he feels guilty fr soing such thing and that girl has told his school classmates and he feels guilty fr that... I made him understand that tere is no need to feel guily of he did and it happened becoz of me so I ll talk to tat girl and make her understand but he said no need and he said that he ll talk with me once the college is over so that he ll have tym to forget that moment... after a day he msgd as " sorry i donno wat am i doing i can't be happy if i am like this i ll go to her" hearing that I went sick and he called and said that he wants to see me so I went to meet after tat... and again we started to chat and he said sorry fr what he msgd and asked why did I do like tat( he has tot that I tried fr suicide) then I told I didn't do anything I went sick that all... after wards daily we used chat and he said that he understood what he wants in his life and he too now clear about that and said that he loves truly frm now on... we started to chat daily after tat again... he used to speak about sex and how will he have sex with me in future and all indepth secrets which will happen between a couple... we were like a couple...

COOKIE MONSTER · Jul 21, 2012, 09:10 AM

Im sorry but you really need to get over this,
You sound obsessed you need help

This young man has treated you badly you don't need him in your life he's bad new's.
You say your 22 but your acting like a teenager,you need to grow up and realise this guy doesn't want to be with you.you need to get a life away from him,new friend's,hobbie's,go on holiday
((Don't contact him ever again ))
You need to let this go before you do something stupid

ratchasi · Jul 21, 2012, 09:43 AM

Originally Posted by COOKIE MONSTER

Im sorry but you really need to get over this,
You sound obsessed you need help

This young man has treated you badly you don't need him in your life he's bad new's.
you say your 22 but your acting like a teenager,you need to grow up and realise this guy doesn't want to be with you.you need to get a life away from him,new friend's,hobbie's,go on holiday
((Don't contact him ever again ))
You need to let this go before you do something stupid

We both went together to temple he could have done anything to me sex related but not even a single touch happened... he spoke very softly and convincingly and we shared our future plans and how we both love each other... I can't forget him in my life and I can't stop loving him in my life... he is my entire life... if god has not written my life with him then there is no need that I should live...

Thanks for taking time to read my life story... but I have decided it already there is no way that I can live without him... he is my soul... I can't live without him... it may look dramatic but that's the truth...

Life is not easy without the one I love... I just want to know only one thing before my death did I ever cheat him or did I had fake love on him or did I force him... was my love for him true or not..?
I know my parents will suffer for my loss but if I live they will suffer more having me with them... I can't ever see my love being with other... I want my parents and my love to be happy let my death give him happiness... the only is I feel very sorry for my parents...

COOKIE MONSTER · Jul 21, 2012, 10:10 AM

Life is not all about men
You do not need a man to live your life
Travel the world,Have adventures,Find yourself.
You need to learn to be single before you can be acouple

I thought id never meet my Mr Right,I'd been in a few good relationships and a lot of bad ones,thought I was in love but I wasn't,I looked and looked and gave up last year thought it was just going to be me and my boys.and a guy I had on my Facebook for a year kept asking if he could meet for a coffee I kept putting him off till last July now we have been together a year and a great year it has been we've just got engaged and are moving in together.
Life goes on and when your not looking the things you want find you :)

I seen a pic on Facebook saying Someday,someone will walk into your life and you will realise why your past relationships never worked

ratchasi · Jul 21, 2012, 10:21 AM

Originally Posted by COOKIE MONSTER

Life is not all about men
You do not need a man to live your life
Travel the world,Have adventures,Find yourself.
You need to learn to be single before you can be acouple

I thought id never meet my Mr Right,i'd been in a few good relationships and alot of bad ones,thought i was in love but i wasn't,i looked and looked and gave up last year thought it was just going to be me and my boys.and a guy i had on my facebook for a year kept asking if he could meet for a coffee i kept putting him off till last july now we have been together a year and a great year it has been weve just got engaged and are moving in together.
life goes on and when your not looking the things you want find you :)

i seen a pic on facebook saying Someday,someone will walk into your life and you will realise why your past relationships never worked

You life is not only with men, I accept it... but for the society its not so easy to live single and the society and culture won't leave me... I don't anyone else to come in my life wher I had him in my life... I don't like to see someone else in his place and I hate it... my love will be for him alone... and I see he alone as my hubby... he always used to tell me "be the same always as how u are now... will you stop your love on me" my love for him will not end I will allow someone else to take his place... he used to tell that even though we are not married still I am his wife and he feels that always and will ask me to use his name after mine... only death can sop my love for him...

COOKIE MONSTER · Jul 21, 2012, 10:34 AM

I don't understand why you came on to this site and wasted your time and ours if you have made your mind up.
You need help love which nobody on this site can give
Good Luck

talaniman · Jul 21, 2012, 10:57 AM

YOUR character ,
Is immature, and illogical. Driven by false emotions, and ruled by fear and insecurity, and inexperience. You are in denial of true facts and take a cowardly view and miss the real solutions to happiness.

Cowardly and selfish, and have made a small manageable thing into a major obstacle for yourself. You reach these conclusions because you built a life around a fantasy plan and made no room for reality, or even considered the source. Your lack of even trying to find a better plan is also a part of a selfish need that has isolated you from common sense or a reasonable thought to making some adjustments to your thinking.

Only a young, immature unexperienced person would reach the conclusion that suicide is better than dealing with reality, or find courage and strength to at least try to do better by LEARNING from mistakes, and striving to do better.

Your solution is to grow up,and stop putting your happiness into the hands of some young kid who knows less than you do, and seek the counsel of an older wiser adult to help you see that YOU can do better, and can do better for yourself. You need guidance, not death to find a good path for yourself that leads to happiness,and fulfillment.

So stop blaming your misery on a flawed plan, illogical thinking, the society you live in, and take responsibility for what you should be doing. Building a life that you enjoy, and not giving in to your fear and disappointment.

At least try to do the work of living before considering giving up when things don't work like you wanted them to.

At least give yourself 3 years of efforts on your own behalf to see what you can accomplish
Before you kill yourself.

The guys character,

An immature idiot that should not have been believed in the first place.

Conclusion

You both have a lot to learn about yourselves and your world,and need to get busy learning more than you do NOW! Wise adults can guide you so don't be stupid! Seek them out!