[s276654]

Ok this is going to most likely going to be a note of self pitty but I really doint care because I don't have any where I can express my true feelings. Ok, so I will start by saying a know that that I have self acceptance issues. For instance I literally think that every single person is judging me. For this reason I just do not speak and just pretty much just listen to what's going on around me. Another problem that I have is guys never like me. I am so confused because my friends, including my guy friends always tell me I am pretty but I have never been able to get a guy to like me like that. I another thing that is wrong with me is that I don't like myself. Recently we had to list four things we liked about ourselves and well I couldn't do that. Thinking about this makes me cry because I don't want to be like this. And well its not like my life is a total wate because when my friends and I hang out we have fun but its like I can never be myself. Now that I am in college I have tried to get involed in many activities just so I could try to change but nothing works! What's wrong with me :(??

[nindzha]

As I see u have a lack of selfconfidence.

Instead of wirtting things that u like on yourself u could suggest to the people u had this "game" with to write 4 things about each other.
For example, everbody have a blank list in front of him and writtes his name on it and than passes it forward so everybody will see whose paper this is. Than everbody should writte 4 posivtive remarks about this person.
At the end u will see what your attributes are. If there are 10 people that means 10*4 = 40 remarks.

[airbats-goku]

Hon, I was the same way. Always counselling the guys about the other girls. Always the best friend never the girlfriend. Joining college activities was a great idea just stick with it! Take some time and look at yourself! You seem to be a caring person because you do have friends. There you go, something to like about you! What are you taking in college? Why? You might find something's there too. List things that you are good at. Do these things make others happy and do they make you happy when you make others happy? As to the guy thing, look around at your guy friends. Is there one guy who's always been there for you? Helped you when you needed help? Hung out when no one else wanted to? Maybe he likes you but he's too shy to tell you. Don't discover him 10 years too late like I did.

Nindzha has a good idea too. Pick a friend that you admire and have them write out a list of all the words that they think describe you. While they are doing that, write a list of the things that you think describe them and what you admire about them. After this, compare the 2 lists. I think your friend might like the same things about you that you admire in them.

Just remember that loving who you are takes time and your feelings won't change overnight. Especially at a big college or university, there is so much change going on in your life right now and its so very tough on you. Please know that I understand where you are coming from. I was there myself about 10 years ago. Please don't be too hard on yourself. Loving oneself is the toughest love there is.

If you ever need to talk I'm here.