[BridgeOfLight97]

What should I do and say if my boyfriend wants to have sex and other things when I see him next and he's really persistent, but I'm not ready? If I say that I'm scared that he'll say something to his friends about me being frigid and everything. He says he's in love with me, but so far, he's said that to all of his girlfriends... andy advice for a confused teen?

[Wondergirl]

The only word you have to say is "No." No explanations, no apologies, no crying, no pleas for understanding, no begging for secrecy. Then change the subject to puppies or pizza or the NFL.

No. No. No. One very firm, solid, definitive, even-toned "No."

[C0bra_M3nace]

I would dump him if I were you! He doesn't love you one bit if he'd go to his friends and say you're too scared to have sex with him. That just means he's only in it for the sex. If he respects your "no" then it's different.

That's great that you're not ready, it means you're smart, and value your future. You're never going to be ready for sex until you are ready to raise a child, emotionally and financially.

[J_9]

I agree with WonderGirl on this. You just tell him NO and that you are not ready for sex or to be a parent. He either respects your decision or he moves on.

Girl! Stick up for yourself, your teen years, and your morals. Don't ever let anyone pressure you into anything you aren't ready for.

[BridgeOfLight97]

Thanks for the advice. I think I just needed some other opinions and views because I'm not exactly an expert when it comes to my relationships and it's pretty new for me.

[J_9]

Girl, I deliver babies for a living. You have no idea how many babies come from the "first time," or the guy saying he "pulled out." Most of the teens that have babies have to raise them on their own because the "boy" moves on and feels that it's not his responsibility.

Sex= babies, pure and simple. There is no "safe" time of the month and birth control is not 100% effective. I've had two babies while using the birth control pill perfectly AND using a condom. I've also had a baby after having chemotherapy that was supposed to make me sterile, but it didn't.

You have your whole life ahead of you and you seem to be a very smart woman. Sex can change the whole dynamics of a relationship... especially at your age.

No means NO. And if he doesn't like it he can find a floozy who will give it up for his sh*ts and giggles because you aren't that kind of girl. You have morals and standards. You want to get an education so that you can afford to raise a baby when you are ready to have one.

[Homegirl 50]

Of your boyfriend really loved you he would not be pressuring you for sex.
You tell him no and if he does not like it he can move on.
I'm with C0bra_M3nace on this. I'd dump him. Him talking to his friends about this is just tacky and childish. It shows you where is mind is.

[louise1928]

I agree with home girl for like the firxt time ever this boy is not worth it.