[lostsoul__]

So me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 4 years now... and I am not really happy... I pay for almost everything... when we do hang out it's always when and where he wants to... (which I end-up paying for)... he works a full-time job and pays no bills but a small car note... but is always asking me for money...

He has never brought me anything (a birthday gift... Christmas)... nothing! (but I have brought stuff for him) He is always in a bad mood about something... everything I say to him he gets defensive and mean towards me (whenever I try to talk things out with him).

He has cheated on me several times ( so I do have trust issues), we don't really talk much... and when we do it's about him asking me for money etc...

I find myself catering to his every need and get nothing in return... I feel very drained... used... unappreciated... and unloved in this relationship...

I have tried taking breaks from him... but he contacts me 24/7 non-stop until I speak to him... I have tried talking to him about these issues... but he say's I am nagging him and insecure... recently I have pulled back from paying for everything and either have him pay for just himself or pay half of the bills...

I know that my actions add to his behavior (because I can be a push over at times) but I want to know what actions can I take or change within myself to get the respect I deserve from him and to make him be a man. We are both in our early 20's...

[Fr_Chuck]

He is not the problem here, you are, you have accepted it. From this moment on, never pay more than 1/2 or dump him and leave him dumped.

He can not talk you back, if you don't answer you phone or talk to him, don't ready a email or text from him,

[Homegirl 50]

You have allowed him to use you and treat you poorly. Stop giving him money and buying him things. Learn to say no! If he continues to act like a jerk, dump him and don't answer his calls, don't take him back