[anshhim]

I’m confused about this situation called breakup. I met this girl when I started working back in 2008 and we joined same day and we were together in trainings & we became friends, initially we were friends as in normal friends - meeting in office, taking tea breaks in a group, in trainings. Then after 6-7 months I went to a party & I was drunk and I told her that I love her but I didn't mean it really as I wanted to say that I like her.

She spoke to her friends about this and they made fun of it. I was hurt about the fact that she discussed something personal with her friends but then she realized that she did a mistake and said sorry to me, then we started talking on phone, texts and we started meeting outside workplace as well. We have been to many tours and trips together with friends. She told me that she just wants to stay with me as friend or as a partner whichever way I accept her.

She always treated me like GOD however we were not in a relationship but we both knew somewhere that we like each other a lot. We spent a good great time together, almost for 3-4 years, from April 2008- April 2012.

This relationship was like 24*7 on, like we use to chat, we use to call, we use to meet outside/office, at her place or mine, going to movies, shopping, parties, nights out. Everything was so amazing. Her mother knows about us and her brother too.

I did my mistakes in my relationship like- I use to flirt with other girls at the same time, and I shouted on her sometimes for a valid reason and sometimes for no reasons, even I hurt her so many times however I realized every time that I was doing wrong and I always said sorry. She also did so many mistakes as she did treat me bad sometimes too.

In Jan 2012 she said she want some space as she caught me talking & spending some time with an old friend of mine who's a girl. I was scared of this space so I apologized a lot and I tried to convince her that there was nothing but she was just a friend of mine, I cried I said sorry and then we were together again somehow, she started treating me well again. I was so calm and humble this time as I knew and realized that I was doing wrong.

Then in Feb. it was an ON & OFF thing, we use to meet we use to talk but not that regular, then in March she was ready to marry me and she was behaving so normal but in April 2012 she behaved like she's not the one I was known to. She ignored my calls, when I went to meet her she literally push me back on stairs and she abused me, disconnected my calls like I’m no-one. In May she asked me to give her gold ring back to her which she gave me in the month of March 2012 saying that she'll take it once everything will be good between two of us. She said so many false things and lies just to ignore me.

Then on 2nd of May I met her for the last time at her place, said sorry and advised her that I’m still waiting for ever and I came back home, didn't call her after that and one day 4th June she called me at her own asking me how am I doing? Then on 6th June she called me to say sorry about her behavior and I said its okay! Then she called me on 12th June asking me how am I doing and if everything is okay at my side? Then I called her on 17th June after reading her Facebook status, she was drunk that night, when we started talking she cried a lot and said that I did so many wrong things to her that now she don't love me and don't feel the same way at the same time she said she loved me so much before and she said every night she read my gifted diary which I wrote for her which has our story from day 1 till the last day when we broke up. Now she is not calling me.

I’m not sure if she going to come back or not!

My belief and my inner voice always tell me she'll comeback for sure as she always loved me more than I did her.

[Homegirl 50]

There is too much back and forth drama in this relationship. Leave her alone and get on with your life. Stop begging, it is not attractive. Time to call it quits.

[talaniman]

I guess time will tell, but after all that down hill stuff recently, I would suggest you take this time to get a life that you enjoy without her. Just in case she doesn't come back, any time soon. She seems to contact you, when you have not contacted her, so be aware that maybe you are better friends than partners, and you should adjust your focus to you and your own happiness, and not expect future happiness together.

Then you won't just be waiting for her to make a decision about what she wants. Break ups suck, and they happen all the time to most of us, as things just change. Its fun when things are going well, and we have to adjust when they turn for the worst. That requires you to do better for yourself, and build your own happiness, without her. Takes time to get over the past, and see your own future without the person you planned a future with.

That's just the nature of a relationship. Sometimes they end.