[jessa90]

I am a lesbian I'm 21 I've been in a long distance relationship for three months. We've not met in real life yet but are planning to. During the relationship there were trust issues and some fallouts and we made up when we had fallouts. Our last fallout was a week before we broke up and it was because the dating site said she was still online when she'd told me she was going to bed but she told me she had gone offline. She said to me things like lets move forward and lets not go through that again. Then a week later even though things were fine she dropped into chat online that she just wants to be friends. I called her to ask why and the reason she gave was its because of her faith. It's a sin to be with another girl. Then she said something to herself about when I kee doing that it piles up. But when I ask her is it because of before she says no its because of her faith and she's going to try to date a guy because its wrong to be gay. There was a two week no contact period and then she began talking to me online by email again as friends. When I appologized she said it fine babe. When I asked to give us another try she said I'm sorry I can only be your friend. So the other day I sent her a seed letter which is trying to remove the resistance she is putting up by telling her I understand where she is coming from about the break up and making it look like I agree with the breakup. And I've been feeling terrible like its my fault by not always trusting her. But I'm confused because this morning after sending the letter I said hello and she said hello. Then I said to her can we talk things over? She said yes. And I thought she was ready to sort things out. I told her how sorry I was for the way I'd treated her before and this time she said it differently she said apology accepted. Then I said can we forget the past? She said I already did. And it started to look like I was getting somewhere. But when I asked her can we give another try? I want to treat you right. Her reply was but we can only be friends. When I asked her why she just wants to be friends she said that it is her faith. I said but you were gay before and she said I was gay but I'm now straight. I'm confused because I thought it was that I had treated her bad before but we had made up at least a week before the break up. And she's saying its forgiven and forgoten about the fallouts but she's saying her reason is to do with faith and she shouldn't be with me. I know she's told me before her family are very religious and I don't know why she just didn't say we can't be more than friends before we got together. Can someone please help? Could it be both reasons for the breakup or is it just religon or just the fallouts? She seems to have forgiven me about the way I treated her. But is putting up resistance saying she's looking for a guy because of her faith she can't be with me. Is there anything I can do? Have I taken the right steps at all? I have asked now and again can we give another try but I didn't beg. And I diidn't cry when we broke up because I just felt too numb and shocked to get angry or upset when the breakup happened. Is there a chance? Or could I use the day that we will meet as a way to get back with her? Possibly can I get back with her before its too late and she finds someone? Thanks for the help

[EnigmaMCMLXIV]

Ok first of all, you met her on the internet not in real life. So you need to think about what happens on the internet. I have seen this so many times, it's a game that people play where they can be anything they want but when it comes to meeting they back off.

Are you sure she was gay? I find it amusing that she used the excuse she was from a religious background so you couldn't be together and all of a sudden she is straight. If you are gay you know you are gay. Whether a person comes out or not it doesn't change your genetic makeup you are what you are.

I think this girl was playing you. Do not let her taint who you are I am sure you will meet someone who will love you, respect you. Make an effort to meet someone in real life. The internet sites are crap. Good Luck