[Anjunadeep]

Hello everybody, I have been reading on these forums for quite a while looking for answers but never found anything relevant for my situation.

I just turned 20 years old and my girlfriend is close to 19. I do love her more than every other girlfriends I ever had and I never forget to tell her how much I love her.
Everyday.

We are in couple for more than a year as I type. At the beginning, the first months, I felt her lack of sex drive regarding vaginal penetration was just normal as we were just starting to date. I was pleased by our foreplay sessions, including everything a sexually happy couple has, for the exception of penetration.

Before telling her about my desire to penetrate her 7 or 8 months ago, I tried to find the tickle that would make her horny, that would make her ask me to make love to her. For that, I played the badboy genre, the rebel, the lover, the romantic, the independent, the cook, the horny beast, the by myself, the E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G.

She never came up and asked me to penetrate her so I asked her why didn't she seem to want me to make love to her. She said it was hurting her since her ex was kind of brutal with their first penetration so that left her traumatized. Over the time, I learned to make her feel she wasn't an object meant for the men's pleasure but that she could also enjoy penetration, last month, we had sex, it was perfect, and yes, she enjoyed it. I know she did not fake nor lie the fact that she really liked it. That was the only time in her life she genuinely asked by herself for a penetration

Now, the problem is, that she kind of came back to the same status as at our early relation, also known as, the girl that doesn't ask for sex anymore, Even if I have told her a few times that I would like to make love with her and she agreed. We never did it again.

I am really desperate for sex with the woman I love, is that normal? I would like to grab a few advices if you guys have any. Because I am seriously thinking of leaving her, even if I love her, because I NEED SEX in order to be myself, I am not a sex addict nor a rapist, I just want sex with the woman I am with.

[ali18ninja]

It's normal to want sex from the woman you love. It's quite normal actually. If you NEED sex though that's a different story. If you TRULY love her, you really wouldn't "need" sex. Her presence and love for you would be more than enough. With that said, if you want sex as much as you do then she probably isn't for you and you need to find someone who is compatible with you.