[shr]

I got married few months before.. I told my husband about my past before we got engaged. I was having affair which lasted 3yrs.. I had got physical with that guy and I told this truth to my husband as I never wanted to cheat on my husband.. At that tym my husband was not having problem with my past after that we got married. But from last few days he used to have fight with me because of my past. He wants to meet that guy with whom I had a affair.. What should I do?? I love my husband a lot and I am very honest to him but still he is having problem. He used to say that my past hurts him a lot,he says that I shouldn't have told him about my past but I never wanted to hide anythng from him so I told him the truth. Please help me what should I do?? I love my husband a lot and can't think of staying away from him. He says he also love me a lot but my past hurts him... What should I do??

[ali18ninja]

You told him the truth and that's important to many people. Others will say they would rather not know about your past. But they will always be curious so I feel you did the right thing by telling him. As far as what you should do right now, if you husband is bent on meeting this guy then maybe you should talk to they guy and explain the situation. Tell him your husband wants to meet him and talk to him. He may not even agree to do it. Above all, I believe the better option is for you and your husband to go to marriage counseling and talk to someone who is trained to deal with these situations and you three can discuss your problems and try to work them out.

[shr]

Thanks ali for your answer but even I don't have any contact of that guy .I even don't know where is he.. my husband do not trust me even though I told him the truth. M just helpless