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Luvstruck · Jun 24, 2012, 09:29 PM

I am almost positive that I'm lovestruck over this woman I know. The worst part is, I am 17 and she is 33 and married with beautiful twin girls, so there is absolutely no hope of a relationship. I met her at my church and the first time I saw her I was struck a bit. She is very handy, so she and I have worked on a couple projects together for the church, at the church. Each time, I developed a stronger feeling for her.

And, get this, right after I try to force myself to see her as a normal mom at the church, I find out that her husband is older than her by more than 10 years, so she is totally fine with a big age difference, even in a marriage! I was so excited! But still, I need to get over her somehow and just let time move forward. I'm hoping that when I'm older we may have a hope of getting together but I don't want to break up a family, nor do I think myself capable of doing so in the first place. So I just need to move forward from here.

Any advice? My head is spinning right now just thinking about her. Help!!

P.S.

This feels like sweet torture, and I truly have no idea what to do. I am thinking about confiding in her about my feelings to ask her for advice so that I can hopefully get closure and help but I don't know how that would go over. I don't hope to find a relationship by doing this, nor is that my motivation. I just really want to talk to her about it. Any opinions?
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talaniman · Jun 24, 2012, 10:53 PM

You have a crush, and it will pass if you let it, by doing NOTHING that's inappropriate, or plain foolish, like talking to her about YOUR feelings for her. Instead, stay within the boundaries of good behavior, and focus on other things, people and activities you enjoy.

Maybe not being around her so much, may help. Its okay to have feelings for others, even strong ones, that's human. But we don't have to act on them. That's something you can control, YOUR ACTIONS!! Do so, control yourself, and confessing feeling to a married female you know through church, is highly inappropriate, don't you think?