[ollyfeatherhead]

Hello! My name is Olivia. I am starting a new school in August, and I am very nervous. I am a person that has a problem with being uncomfortable in clothes. If the slightest thing feels wrong, I throw a tantrum. It just feels horrible. One time, I didn't like how a pair of jeans felt on me, so I went down to the school nurse, and asked her to send me home. I started breaking down and getting really upset. I don't know what's wrong with me, I'm just weird.

Anyway, since then I have worn sweatpants almost everyday of my life. I have started wearing shorts, but I try to wear them when I am not seeing anybody that day. I am in the average weight for my age, but I still don't like how I look. I get laughed at for wearing sweatpants. For my new school, I want to wear something different. But the problem is, I feel uncomfortable in everything and don't like my body. Do you have any suggestions for what I should wear? Thanks!!

[ollyfeatherhead]

Okay so my mother is OBSESSED with fat. I am in the average weight for my age, but I do look a little chunky because I am shorter than the average height for my age.

My mother is underweight for a 51-year-old. She has been a nurse for thirty years. I probably go on the computer for three hours a day. The rest of the day, I sleep, play an instrument, work out a really tiny bit, maybe read, and play volleyball outside. But because of how I look, my mother CONSTANTLY tries to force me to get on our treadmill and eliptical. She tells me she wants to "get rid of my belly." She accuses me of being on the computer all day long, but she wouldn't know because she works for 12 hours each day.

Because of all the things I do, this reduces my appetite. For this, I usually don't eat until 7:00 p.m. And then maybe at 10, I'll have a fruit or vegetable. She gets mad at me for this too, because in the past I have thrown up in the middle of the night from eating that late. But that was when I was really little and I would eat junk and lay down which would increase my weight and make me puke. But I only eat fruits/vegetables that late now.

She says many insulting remarks about how I look, and the only thing she EVER talks to me about is how I should lose weight. She yells at me of she catches me trying to have a sweet now and then, and I can't get take out from restaurants that I like because they are "greasy" and "do produce". Is this bullying? If it is, I'm sick and tired of it. I have tried to talk to her about it, but she only says that she's trying to help me and that she is doing nothing wrong. Is she right? Am I overreacting? I have told her that she makes me feel fat and lazy, but she says that she's helping me. What should I do?

[Wondergirl]

First of all, you are starving yourself to death by eating only at 7 each evening, Your body is getting rid of muscle and keeping any fat cells to live on. You need to change how and what you eat. If your mother is a nurse, she should have no problem taking you to a nutritionist who will work with you on an eating plan. And now I understand your clothing question. You actually have a body image problem, not a clothing problem.

[C0bra_M3nace]

Go see a psychiatrist, because hating the way you look to this extent is not normal.

[Fr_Chuck]

Throwing a trantrum ? Sorry that is 6 year olds You get the clothes and start wearing some now, if you can wear them you wear them. You are often judged by others ( not that it matters) by how you dress, if you dress sloppy you will be judged that way, you dress nice you will be looked on better.

[Homegirl 50]

I have merged these two threads to better understand what is going on.

[Wondergirl]

Please don't start new threads with the same question. Homegirl has already merged two of your threads.

Respond to the answers you have already gotten.

[ollyfeatherhead]

Thanks to all of you for listening, but this question is about what you suggest I wear as pants for my new school. Please don't judge me if you are going to answer my page, Just please answer my question.

[Alty]

You have gotten answers, great answers.

I suggest you read them.

You throw a fit over clothes. That's not something a young teen does. It's something a young child does. So either get over it, or wear sweats. We can't do anything about how you feel.

Have you ever been tested for Aspergers, or Autism?

[JudyKayTee]

Stay in the sweatpants. It's a far better choice than wearing something else and having tantrums in a new school.

[ollyfeatherhead]

Okay so recently I broke up with my boyfriend and my best friend started to flirt with him and all and was ignoring me. You can read more about that in my other questions..

Okay so recently she just texts me one day later in the month and says, "hey." Now this really pisses me off because she just expects to show up and expect everything to be okay. Then we started to talk on the phone and text. But, not as much as we used to. I told myself that I could never love her, (like a sister), like I did. It would never be the same for me after what she put me through.

So one time, I text her, "If **** asked you out, what would you say?" (**** is my ex boyfriend but I don't want to put his name)
She said; "To be honest, I would love to but I couldn't do that to you"
And then I said: "You can, but just give me some time, please. We broke up a month ago and it still hurts."
So she just said: "I understand".
This is the sum of our conversation a week later:
A week later, I ask her, "were you going to go out with **** when we stopped talking?
Her: No. I was just mad at you at the time. So I thought that that would make you mad but I didn't know it would make you like this.
Me: How could you do that to me? I went through hell for weeks! I didn't have ONE person to talk to!
Her: Well sorry. I'll ask my Mom if we can go to Cedar Point this weekend.
Me: I don't think I want to go with you, you are NOT my friend after what you have done.
Her: Whatever. I don't know what went wrong with us, Olivia.
Then, I felt really bad, (I've been following her around like a puppy since we were little because I thought I wanted to be her best friend which I achieved but I still followed her around), so I made a list that took up three whole messages of confessions and "I'm sorry's".
Her: Apology unaccepted.
Me: That wasn't an apology. That was something to get off my chest. I'm now free, I don't have to deal with that anymore. I'm free!
Her: Yeah right. Oh you are SO self centered yeah you're free, what about me?
Me: YOU'RE the selfish one! You have done bad stuff in our friendship too! You're acting like you were a little angel! If you wanted to be free, you would make a list like me.
Her: Yeah no.
Me: I'm letting out my little Smeagol and killing my inner Gollum! Oh, and sorry for being a Lord of The Rings Freak. That's all.
Her: You forgot "sorry for the drama" Oh and get rid of the Lord of the Ring's part. Just freak. That's all.
Me: Listen, this could have ended so much smoother. You don't have to go calling me names.
Her: I'm just calling you what you are. Now I'm going to shut my phone off so it can rest because it's so tired of your bullsh*t. My poor, poor phone.

After that, I went in the bathroom and cried a little bit. She's been my best friend for as long as I can remember. I can't trust her anymore, I don't want t be her friend. But she was my only TRUE friend. Or as I thought she was. What should I do? What did I do wrong? What did she do wrong? Thanks for listening! Buh-Bye! :)

[Homegirl 50]

Your friend flirted with your boyfriend because she was upset with you about something. She didn't date him, she told you she would not have.
She apologized, so get over it!

[odinn7]

Yeah... I think when you jumped her for her telling you she did it to upset you... that's where you went wrong.

To be fair, it seems both of you could have handled the whole thing a little better but neither of you did. So now, because of this, you have what has happened here.

[Homegirl 50]

You either get over it or leave your best friend alone, and over what?
Think about it!

[ollyfeatherhead]

Hello! My name is Olivia. I am starting a new school in August, and I am very nervous. I am a person that has a problem with being uncomfortable in clothes. If the slightest thing feels wrong, I throw a tantrum. It just feels horrible. One time, I didn't like how a pair of jeans felt on me, so I went down to the school nurse, and asked her to send me home. I started breaking down and getting really upset. I don't know what's wrong with me, I'm just weird.

Anyways, since then I have worn sweatpants almost everyday of my life. I have started wearing shorts, but I try to wear them when I am not seeing anybody that day. I am in the average weight for my age, but I still don't like how I look. I get laughed at for wearing sweatpants. For my new school, I want to wear something different. But the problem is, I feel uncomfortable in everything and don't like my body. Do you have any suggestions for what I should wear? Thanks!!!

Okay I don't REALLY throw TANTRUMS. It's not like I bang my fists around and scream.

[ollyfeatherhead]

I just tear up a little bit and feel horrible. The back of my throat swells up.

[Homegirl 50]

Personally, I think you should wear what you feel comfortable in. Be you, not who others think or want you to be.

[Wondergirl]

Are there other things that seem to drive you wild at times, things about yourself or about other people or even about happenings/events in your life?

[JudyKayTee]

Are your only choices jeans and sweatpants? There are lots of other cuts and fabrics.

I agree with Wondergirl - are there other issues?

[Alty]

I'd still like an answer to my question;

Have you ever been tested for Aspergers, or Autism?