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    damariz figuero Posts: 4, Reputation: 1
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    Jun 22, 2012, 08:20 AM
    Adopting my kids back
    I gaveup my parental rights so my mom could adopt them but I have leaved with them all along and now I want to adopt them back because their father and I are still together and want to move away and take them with me.
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    Jun 22, 2012, 08:49 AM
    Where? I don't see this happening. Was this a legal ADOPTION, not guardianship?

    Why did you agree to the "adoption?"

    You can always try but I can almost guarantee - if this was an adoption - that this is not going to happen.

    These aren't puppies to give away and then get back.
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    Jun 22, 2012, 09:21 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    Where? I don't see this happening. Was this a legal ADOPTION, not guardianship?

    Why did you agree to the "adoption?"

    You can always try but I can almost guarantee - if this was an adoption - that this is not going to happen.

    These aren't puppies to give away and then get back.
    Well when I was about 6 months pregnant I stopped going to my doctors appointments and the week prior to my due date I smoked some drugs thinking that it wasn't going to harm the baby so when I went to the hospital they asked who was my doctor and I said I didn't have one and they asked for the letter they give you when you are ready or about to givebirth and I didn't have it so I had my baby and the next day social workers took them and I walked out of the hospital without my baby then the court visits,supervised visit with my children and the court oders was to get into random testing and few programs which I did and after six months I was supposed to get them back and I finish the programs but the judge desided that six months was not enough for a drugaddict to stop using so after that my lawyer pulled me and my partner outside the courtroom and told us OK you just need to sign here and everything will be over soon and we did then a week after I found out we gaveup our parental rights and then one year after that I moved in with my mom just to be with them but they call her gramma and they call me mom because they know this was seven years ago.
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    Jun 22, 2012, 09:35 AM
    It doesn't appear that this was an adoption, so it doesn't call for "adopting back".

    Social services, or your parents, have custody. You need to apply to terminate that custody.
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    Jun 22, 2012, 09:37 AM
    How long have you been clean?

    I find it shocking that you "smoked some drugs" and didn't realize you were harming the baby.

    If you are with a partner, not married, in most States you do not qualify to adopt - and that includes your own children.

    It's taken 7 years for you to want to get custody back? Why?
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    Jun 22, 2012, 09:53 AM
    I've been clean from the moment I walked out of the hospital without my baby and I had a 3year old girl too. And I smoked the day before my due date and thinking that she was fully developed which wasthe biggest mistake and right now were finally planning to get married after 9 years together and we want them to have his last name because three years ago I had my third child and she is the only one that has his last name and mine and the other 2 girls ask how come they don't .
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    Jun 22, 2012, 10:18 AM
    And where do I apply for this becase this is not the first time I ask for help I appealed that decision many times and they say I submittted it to late and then I contacted many lawyers and they all told me that an adoption will cost me 5,000 dollars so I've been trying to come up with the money cause my mom doesn't support them or help me with their needs but she claims them in her taxes and my girls don't get to see and spend any of that money and I don't work so my partner is the one the provides for us so I just want us to be a normal family
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    Jun 22, 2012, 10:20 AM
    Planning to get married and getting married are two different things.

    I would believe what your local Attorney, familiar with the circumstances, tells you.
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    Jun 22, 2012, 10:34 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by damariz figuero View Post
    my mom doesn't support them or help me with their needs
    They don't live in her house and eat the food and clothes she buys?
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    Jun 22, 2012, 10:42 AM
    Another obstacle is going to be OP living in her mother's house (from what I'm reading), with or without a partner. She is not standing on her own two feet - but now she wants custody?

    Not until she can support herself and her children.

    And when it's a partner there is no commitment - the partner can waltz out at any time. That is not going to count.

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