[winniethepooh]

So here is our situation. I have 1 month and a half left on my visa. At the beginning of August I will have to go back to my country as I completed my program here. We've been dating for 7 months now and he already proposed to me 2 months earlier. So yea technically he's my fiancé.

The thing is we both have nothing, he has an unstable job that will end on September, and I'm currently unemployed. We both want to get married and move to an apt (as of now he lives w/ his parents) but with our not so sufficient income right now we can't afford it.

He has a lot of stress because once he gets married to me, he will have to move out, starting to pay for his own place. My mom gave me $3,000 to help me with the time I'm unemployed and looking for a job. So that can cover a cheap apt for couple of months. He's worried that I won't be able to find a job and that we will be homeless because once he moves out he cannot come back to his house. And me living in his house is NOT an option.

And his friends and family are telling him he's too young to get married and that this is too big of a risk. He says he loves me and wants to do this with me, however, he is very scared that we will fail and this will break us apart. I, on the other hand, am very optimistic and confident that we can do this. I love him and I'm sure he's the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. I do not get married to him just because of the green card. I could go home, but I wanted to stay here to be with him and have our lives here together.

So what should I do to help him? I always try to stay positive to lift his spirit up but it hasn't seemed to work. I mean it works for a little while then all the problems start to appear in his head again. Help!

[Fr_Chuck]

1 how old is he and you
2. what nation is this in, and where are you from
3. why can't you live with him in his parents home

[winniethepooh]

I am 22 and he's turning 24 in 5 months. We' re in the USA, and I'm from Vietnam. His dad will not let me live there he does not like the fact that I spend the weekend over his house with my boyfriend

[talaniman]

Go back home, stay in touch, and keep working to have something, and give him a chance to get his stuff together. I doubt anyone will advise marriage after 7 months. But with hard work and commitment, true love will find a way to overcome the obstacles you face.

Only time will tell.