[confuse_soul]

Hi, I am a buddhist girl(26) and I am in love with a muslim boy(27).We both are software engineers and are well setteled.We want to get marry but both ours families are not agreeing to this.His family only want muslim girl for him.They believe that even if I will convert it would be for the sake of marrying him and so that is not conversion.

My parents are not accepting this because of two reasons - 1) They are afraid of society and 2) His parents are not accepting it.

I have to take a decision as whether to have court marriage with him against everyone's will or marry someone my parents choose for me.And I have to take this decision now.

Please suggest me what should I do.

[JudyKayTee]

You have two choices - follow your heart, marry him, see what your famlies do OR follow what your parents believe (this is not a good match) and break off the relationship.

You are both presumably self-supporting adults, capable of making your own decisions.

It boils down to how much you want to upset your parents.

[confuse_soul]

Thanks for your answer..
But that's the confusion I have.I don't want to hurt my parents.. I think may be after marriage they will accept both of us.But the starting time will be very tough and I am more afraid about their health.

[JudyKayTee]

Only you know what is best. I can make all the suggestions in the world but if they are not what you want to hear, you won't hear me.

You did not mention your parents' health earlier.

Again - two choices. Marry him and suffer the consequences or don't marry him and suffer the consequences.

You are both self-supporting adults, able to make your own decisions. That's what you need to do.

[confuse_soul]

Only you know what is best. I can make all the suggestions in the world but if they are not what you want to hear, you won't hear me.

You did not mention your parents' health earlier.

Again - two choices. Marry him and suffer the consequences or don't marry him and suffer the consequences.

You are both self-supporting adults, able to make your own decisions. That's what you need to do.

My parents have no health issues as such.but I am afraid if they should not take it on their health.In any case I will have to suffer.. I am thinking of marrying him.It is a very difficult decision

[JudyKayTee]

Can you picture the rest of your life without him?

I'm a romantic. I say marry him - that doesn't mean that's the best choice for you.

[confuse_soul]

I am more afraid that if I marry some one else I will always feel guilty and won't be able to do justice to the relationship.May be I am thinking it now and time will help me to overcome it.But I am not able to break the life I have planned with him

[JudyKayTee]

Then marry him!