[talkitout]

I was dating a guy for a few months and he had to work in Mexico and we were still involved only it was difficult - obviously.

I was having a stressful time and he offered me some money to release the pressure and asked for my bank account details.
I received $500 first and thanked him saying I'd repay him etc. He never said anything in regards to the repayment.

A few months went by and during this time he had deposited another $400 in 2 lots.

To sum it up, he came back to Australia finally and we were great for a bit and I had mentioned the money then and he brushed it off making me think maybe its OK?

A year has gone by now and we have broken up, I haven't seen him for almost 2 months and I get an email saying - here are my account details etc. (quite rude and blunt using FULL names).
Threatening that I pay back monies loaned as a court order would only cause me more hassles?

So, I'm wondering for 1. What to do and 2. Can he do that?

[Fr_Chuck]

Since you agreed and told him you were going to pay it back, it was a loan, so you pay it back, why have you not paid it already ?

Did he ever actually say, you did not have to pay it back ?

But he may sue you, and if you tell the court that you agreed to pay him back, you will lose and not only owe him the money but court costs also.

Have you considered making him a offer to settle the total amount for less,

[talkitout]

Since you agreed and told him you were going to pay it back, it was a loan, so you pay it back, why have you not paid it already ?

Did he ever actually say, you did not have to pay it back ?

But he may sue you, and if you tell the court that you agreed to pay him back, you will lose and not only owe him the money but court costs also.

Have you considered making him a offer to settle the total amount for less,?

I haven't been able to repay him is why.
He hasn't exactly said that I didn't have to though he never asked for it until we broke up?
And it's the way he's going about it really.
Thanks, I was just wondering. I don't want the bad energy out there on me, so I will work out some payment plan on my part and keep that email detailing it so I have some backing at least showing I have attempted to do my best. That should keep it out of court at least.
And, leaves me feeling better by doing the right thing,
Yeah?

[Fr_Chuck]

Karma let the negative energy go back to them.

We all know in our hearts, while you were lovers, the partner gives and if you stayed together he never would have asked for it, But what could have happened does not stand up in court as evidence.

All a court can go by, since it is not in writing is what each of you says. You can not say, he ever said he did not want to be repaid, and you have to ( being honest) admit that you did say, at least to the first payment to repay it.

Yes, if you can find a email from the past, saying not to worry about repaying, you may have something.