[Blessings121909]

Me and my fiancé were together for 4 years we have a beautiful 21/2 year old baby boy. Our love has been a up and down roller coaster we have had many fights but many great times together. We argued a lot mostly how I didn't give attention and vice versa it was always pointing fingers on what who isn't doing what.

I work for a family business I just became the CEO and it's taken a lot of time and my mind. On Sunday she said she was done that she couldn't do this anymore That she isn't happy anymore I love her I tried to talk but she said it was too hard and left. She says she loves me so much but needs time to see her life clear. It's so hard because we have a son I want to be a family. I have talked to her and spilled my love her and how family, and true love can overcome anything in life.

We met for lunch it went great I gave her a big hug and she did too. But I noticed when I looked out the corner of my eye that she looked sad and then smile when I looked at her. I don't know what to do last night she said she loves me and wants to be friends but she doesn't know anything she says she knows it won't work but she loves me.

She has been texting other guys this kills me I want to worm everything out but her not texting me and texting other guys she can never truly think about me. She said she is scared. I want to show her I will care for her and make things amazing.

Should I give up? What do I do? We have a family and I don't want to have a broken family. Please help me.

[talaniman]

Since she obviously doesn't agree with you about being a family, step back and be a great dad, and don't get impulsive and hurt and do anything to make her think leaving was not only a good idea, but a great one. Step back from the situation and recover from the emotional shock, because you will be a family, because of your son no matter what, unless you let fear, jealousy, frustration and anger interfere in your judgments, actions and thoughts.

Don't know how you think that arguing, instead of working together resolves anything but you are hardly the first that thinks it's a normal part of a relationship, only to find out it helped build a wall between you and started resentments with your partner.

Let her resolve this without your influence, as forcing what you want right now will only make her madder, and more distant. Trust me guy, telling her what to do because you are hurt will make it worse not better.