[tylerh_01]

I dated this woman for a while, but then she dumped me for another guy, but not she wants me back. This woman is in a wheelchair, but this not bother me; however, this has affected her personality in a negative way. I consider myself to be have a positive attitude, but cannot help it when I talk to this woman. We always argue, mostly because I don't want her back. She complains all the time, sometimes about being in a wheelchair and sometimes about her past relationships, she is unable to hold on to a guy. I have talked to her friends, and they seem to be driven away by this attitude of her's and these are friends who are also in wheelchairs.

I don't love this woman, I was unable to develop feelings for her and when she dumped me, I didn't get hurt. We only dated for about a month before she dumped me. I know it seems cruel for me to date someone who I didn't develop feelings for, but at that point she was a rebound for me, that's why I stayed with her for as long as I did.

I feel like I could learn to love her, but she wants to move too fast and I feel if I don't move fast enough she could dump me again for that other guy. It's like she does not want to give me time to explore any feelings I could have for her. Plus when I think about the future with her, I dislike the possibility of marriage to a woman with negative attitude. I don't want to wake up one morning realizing that I made a mistake. I would like to someone who would treat me right - as I would always treat her right. I don't want to settle.

I can't help, but feel sorry for her. I don't think she will happiness with a guy, at least not anytime soon, not with this attitude. I am currently lonely and unhappy, but realize that I have the potential to meet someone really great and I don't want to invest time with this woman when she comes along, and I know she will come along.

I kept this as simple as possible, but I don't know what to do with this woman because I don't see her personality changing.

[tessa0987]

If she dumped you for someone else then she didn't love you . There's more girls out there and if you ketp thinking of her WAIT FOR HER or CHASE HER

[LadySam]

The answer seems pretty simple to me, you have a choice of involving yourself with someone who complains and has a negative attitude which you already know you cannot abide, or you keep yourself open for a woman who will appreciate the person that you are and maybe not dump you in a month.
Seems to me that you need to stop taking her call or texts, however she is contacting you until she gets the picture.
She can't pester you into a relationship that you don't want.

[odinn7]

Just tell her no. Tell her she dumped you and you're not playing that game with her. Stop all contact with her and move on.