[cgracilis]

Im 22 and been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years now. She is my first and I was hers..
It all seemed perfect at first but now I feel like we've lost that "spark". Im not sure about our future and honestly, I can no longer see us being together that long.. Im afraid of breaking up with her as she is a very emotional person. I can feel that she still loves me very much and I don't want to hurt her. I care about her but I feel like I'm just wasting both our time because I don't see a future with her anymore.
The question is, how do I tell her that I want to break up with her? Is there a way to minimize the pain? By the way, we just celebrated her birthday 2 days ago..
I feel so bad right now... :(

[shizukamelodi]

Maybe try and talk to her about how you feel.If she feels the same discuse how you two could change it for the better.You both have equal feelings so I say talk to her about it.see how it goes from there.you never know if you don't ask. :)

[cgracilis]

I don't really feel like there's anything we can do about it at this point and it'll eventually lead to a break up.
I'm really depressed about my situation right now. Ive been feeling this way about our relationship for a few weeks now. And it feels like I'm just in this relationship out of pity. Im giving it a week or two and then ill talk to her about it. I don't want to cause her pain but I know that if I don't do it now, id be causing even more pain in the future.
Sigh.. :(

[ForeverZero]

Here's the deal. You can't be dead set sure that you don't want to be in this relationship, and you won't be until you're out of it. Sometimes people change their minds when they realize what they've lost. The decent thing to do in your case is to tell her how you feel honestly, and don't sugar coat it, just the blunt facts. You don't feel the same way anymore. You don't think you're ever going to. Don't leave her hanging on to a maybe in the future or if you do this I'll be happy. Then end it smooth and clean, but try to be respectful if she panics and becomes clingy.

[LBP]

Why do you feel the way you do? Do you feel mentally and physically superior to her? Do you feel like she isn't you eqaul - that she's clingy and not worth your time?

If that's the case, then you have a problem that you need to deal with anyway. Anyone with this mentality is no good for someone else. Fess up to it and go live your life. Do what you got to do in order to make yourself feel like you're living up to your potential. I promise it will explode in your face eventually, but that doesn't matter - you still have to do what you have to do.

Or is she just bad for you? You're being pretty limited in your information. Help us out a little bit! By what you're NOT telling us I can only assume you don't want us to judge you... That's why I made my first guess. But with a little more info, who knows what we might say?

[s_cianci]

I agree with the previous poster that a little more info would be helpful. However, if you feel that it's time to end it and move on then you've got to do what you've got to do. Sure it'll be painful and she'll be hurt but she'll deal with it and get over it. Ultimately you can't take responsibility for that.

[talaniman]

The reasons are not as important as being honest and gentle. There is no way to spare any hurt or pain, so be straight about how you feel, and don't lead her on with false hope. Good luck.

[rol]

Well maybe you should learn it while you are young that SPARK does not last forever!