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tonepreciado · May 10, 2012, 10:05 PM

So let me start, me and her started on the best terms. I took it slow, let her know I was I good guy. Didn't even kiss her for 3 weeks. I liked her so much, and then it started. We kissed, we do it after 2 months, thought it is was love, and I made love to her. She told me I was the only one who made her feel like that. I treated her so well. We were in love, it was awesome.

9 months in to it I found out she got pregnant. I accepted right away I was excited and started to make plans. I joined the navy reserves and did my training while she was pregnant. I came back 2011 March and she was about to pop . It seemed like she was never going to pop. I loved her every second I and did my best after my son was born. We told each other we would never give up on each other. So he was here my boy.

Then work was hard to find, I was in the reserves, but still hard to find. We took a break because we thought it would help, and it did, I got a job . Was planning on moving out, but I started to push her away and away and away. I now do not know what I was thinking but 3 weeks ago we wanted to get back together, and we got in this one little argument, and she called us off, that it would not work.

I really love her with all my heart, she is my sons mother and more than that she was my best friend lover and love love... Now she has some guy after 3 weeks ago. She said she missed me, but something got in the way and now a guy is here. She sleeps with him in our bed we bought... Damn all I want is to get her back and be a family. What should I do?

P.S. I have known for a week she has a man now and I let her know all week I love her and care so much about my family but she has not answered

cjk888 · May 11, 2012, 03:29 AM

This is going to be hard to hear but I was kind of in the same situation. She has no respect for you and you need to sort out your child's needs first, you will always be his dad and nothing can change that so just see him as much as you can but try not to see her so delete her of Facebook and get someone to get your son for you if you can that way you can cut as much contact from her as possible, after you have done this she will start to think she wants you back if she doesn't then it just isn't meant to be, give it ago and see what happens its not going to be a quick fix but I bet she comes back when she thinks you want nothing to do with her any more. Remember its all about your son and nothing else because he will be the one who suffers more if it doesn't work out.

tonepreciado · May 11, 2012, 06:42 AM

Thanks man but did she come back to u..

Fr_Chuck · May 11, 2012, 06:56 AM

You have to accept that most likely she is not coming back. You have to move with your life like she is not. So you need to make plans to be the best father, you can be. Figure times and how you are going to visit the child. ( not visit the mother) and work out those details.

Next I have to be a little rule, if the way you write, is the way you talk to her, I see little respect for a women. "going to POP" "prego", babies mamma, sounds like the way some of the street hoods talk. If you talk like that to most respectable girls, no wonder she was looking for someone else.

talaniman · May 11, 2012, 07:08 AM

Be a good dad, and keep it strictly about your son in any contact with her while you back away from love, and romance. That's not going to happen. She was picking partners a long time ago.

cjk888 · May 11, 2012, 07:31 AM

Originally Posted by tonepreciado

Thanks man but did she come back to u ...?

Yes we are back together now but I still hate the fact she has slept withsome else but I'm sure it will pass its so hard not to be needy or want to know what she is doing but you have to remember if she comes back then the grass is greener on your side just hold out and it might happen.

tonepreciado · May 11, 2012, 09:17 AM

Thanks for the comments and to Fr_Chuck I was getting it out and just trying to heal . Ur right I should not wrote like that.

Fr_Chuck · May 11, 2012, 03:10 PM

Best think you can ever do, when you are mad, write that letter telling them off, then burn it.

mmresd · May 11, 2012, 04:26 PM

What you do is accept that the family you are hoping for is not going to happen. You need to respect her relationship with this new man in her life. And you need to be a good father to your son.