[direstraitsjuli]

I’ve been dating a guy for 2 and a half years, and we started fighting a lot over the last 6 months so he broke up with me.

A month later we started talking as friends, and suddenly turned into friends with benefits. It was simple at first, we hooked up and were good friends.

But then he started acting like a boyfriend again, spending the entire day with me texting/calling. I stopped flirting with all the new boys in my life and we seemed pretty happy.

When I told him I couldn’t be in this in between place anymore and it was making me sad and angry, he said we should stop talking and just stopped calling.

I don’t know what’s running through his mind and if I should try to get him back. He and I are so good together but I feel kind of used.

[cjk888]

After reading this I think the question you need to ask yourself is do you want someone who is willing just to let what you have go as soon as you tell him how you feel, as I am male it might help to know what I think but its not always the nicest to hear. I think that he just wanted sex and an ex is the easiest place to go because you are comfy with them but if you really want to make it work you both need to sit down and talk about how you both feel but if he decilnes then its best to move on and find someone worth the time.

[Homegirl 50]

Just think about what he just did to you every time you think about wanting to see or talk to him.
He came back for the friend with benefits status, not because he wanted to be with you. The last 6 months of the relationship was bad, the relationship is over. Time to move on

[ldd12]

If he cannot respect you when you tell him you are not comfortable with your quasi-relationship and threatens to stop talking to you, he is not worth your time!

Go into no contact, give yourself some time to get over him and move on! A wonderful man is out there who will love you and respect you!

[Disney87]

I think he is emotionally abuse and torture you. There are 2 types of guys that woman can't accept. 1 is physical and another is emotionally abuse. He is trying to have the benefit without any commitment. In other words, he is trying to eat without pay. Sad to say that he just treated you as one of his toy. Fulfill his needs and find you whenever he needs. What so worth about this kind of man who is so selfish only think of his need before you. You deserve more love and respect.

And I think you could easily get over him. Maybe what both of you need is just sex. That's why in 1st place you could agree to be friend in benefit with him. If you have feeling towards him and if he does loves you much, both of you will never end up in this stage anymore.

[talaniman]

You could have saved a lot of time, hurt, and misery by talking first before giving benefits away FREE!! He took what you gave him.