[vivolife]

I'm a guy loved a girl who is not our caste, we are poor but the girl is rich and she loves me a lot. I'm the only son having an younger sister who is at the age of marriege. If I did the marriage to that girl it will surely effect my sister feature. Now the time has came the girls parents are forcing her to marry and they are trying to approach my parents, actually my parents don't know about us and they don't even expect such proposal from me. I'm still struggling professionally... but I tooo like the girl. What I have to do please suggest me plllllllssssssssss.

[JudyKayTee]

You have had a relationship behind your parents' backs? That isn't going to endear her to your parents!

The best you can do is explain to your parents the same way you've explained things here.

[Fr_Chuck]

You need to go and talk to your parents before they do, it is a disrespect and even a disrespect to her family for your family not to know.

What is the caste division, merely wealth, or is it religious group

[santosh_mahato]

Its good thing that the girl parents may approach to your parents otherwise in most cases you know girl parents are never ready to accept this.

Don't think about your present condition that you are struggling because in future you may have a good job and your position will change. But if you loose her now than you will not get her in future and you wiil regrate for it.

Now you have to talk about this with your parents wheather they like it or not but you must have to.

This is the time when you have to stand for her. If you really love her than you have to do it.

We know at the first time your parents will oppose you and even don't want to talk about this again.But don't loose hope and again try to talk with parents.

It would be time to check how much dedication you puts in.
Just remember that your struggle will goes only for some day or some month but after that you will get your love for life time.

So be confident and puts your feelling in right way before them.

Best of luck

[mickey007]

I feel for you. I have similar discriminations in my own culture.

There is no other options except telling your parents the truth or ending your relationship with the girl. If you do tell your parents, it's likely they will oppose your relationship and a small chance that they might eventually accept it. Either way, it's your love life. It's very unfortunate that the caste one is born into can have such an importance in the opinions of people and even affect the family members of the couple. I'm sorry for what you and your loved one have to go through but I do think it is worth trying to be with her openly. No one wants to have to leave someone for something they both can't control (like their castes) and live their lives wondering "what if?" and thinking about the other.

Whatever you choose to do, I wish you the best.