[shivaram20]

I am very good at my studies until my graduation. Now am not able to concentrate on my studies because I fell in love with a person who according to our society is not a correct relation. She is my cousin (my aunt’s daughter) sister. In Hindu relation marrying a sister is like a sin and no single person will support me even my cousin also. What happened I don’t know?

Three months before I met her. We messaged and talked in the phone. I am very much happy to listen to her voice and I always wanted to see her face but no bad thoughts to say sincerely. . I has become a hapless victim of one sided love. My problem is that even though I am trying to FORGET her. I can't do so, I really can’t. It seems impossible for me to do this! Every time I see her online I just want to talk to her... every time I see her before me, my heart just longs to get to her... My problem is that, even though I am trying to FORGET her. I can't do so, I really can’t. It seems impossible for me to do this! Every time I see her online I just want to talk to her... every time I see her before me, my heart just longs to get to her... she is seemingly concerned about my situation but she shows indifference on face..

If we come across each other then we both try to ignore each other... though my heart cries. I think I can't live without her but I also know that she is unreachable... this feeling of helplessness is just killing me. Please can anyone help?

I have even stopped talking to her and I am taking steps to forget her... BUT I CAN'T.I REALLY CAN'T... what to do plzz advice? I am literally on the verge of breakdown... I don't want to fall in this death trap of depression... please tell me how to forget her and how to tackle this situation... I don't find solace nowhere...

I am even distanced from my friends and parents! I hate this state of mine... but I just can't stop thinking about her... all my hrs. of the day are preoccupied by her thoughts... and the situations get worsened if I see her... I just can't forget her... I love her so very much

[Pinacoladas]

It's sounds to me like infatuation, an over whelming feeling. It's totally normal and lots of us have had it! Sometimes, the unreachable become more attractive and loveable because you know it's not 'socially acceptable'.
Think of it like this- using your head not your heart- imagine if you went through above and behond to try and be with her and it doesn't work out? Not only have you lost her but you have lost your family and possibly some friends. You need to keep a clear head, and remember she is better to have as a part of your life than none of your life.

[talaniman]

Stop saying you can't, and start thinking you can. Takes time, and focusing on more healthier things to do. Practice staying within the boundaries of good behavior as you learn to control those intense feelings.

Don't isolate yourself, and get off that computer, and around real people doing real things, and THINK before you act or speak. In time you will be cool, calm, collected, and under control. Just do it until the practice is perfect, and a part of you.