[carter1994]

We been in a committed relationship for nearly 2 years but in the last 5 months my boyfriend seems to watch porn every time I don't stop at his. He has over 30 porn dvds.

Its didn't bother me at first but it upset me when he says he's too tired too be loving me me.

Am I over reacting or isn't this normal?

[mmresd]

If he is too tired because of work, you are way overreacting... if he is too tired because he is satisfied with porn, then no, you have the right to ask him to stop so that your needs can be met too. As far as the porn watching, it is normal.

[carter1994]

Yes I understand that he's tired from work as I can be too.I never use to get upset about it because it's a natural thing but it upsets me as I feel am not doing enough for him. Its my first serious relationship were he's ha plenty and had more experience. Just feel he's bored.

[CoruptedAngel]

Constantly watching porn is not normal. It really depends on what you mean by "constantly watching". Men do love porn ( as well as some women ) and that is normal. But watching it in replace to having sex himself is called an addiction. Watching it everyday for hours is an addiction. I mean I love movies and have here well over 100 dvds and I'm getting a lot more but I do not sit and watch them. And it does not get in the way of my daily activities with loved ones etc.

Talk to him. He should try to make time for you as well. Relationships are compromising. If he loves you and wants you happy he will stop watching them so much and spend time with you as well and love you as you feel you need to be. But you as well run you some bath water light the candles and wash him love him and then have him continue it in the bedroom. So many things can be done to spark things up. For the both of you :)

I hope this helps some.

[carter1994]

At the begin of our relationship it didn't bother me. We laughed and joked about it. I've spoken to him about it and he says it his time. I understand that but its unusally to be every time I'm not stopping at his ( 4 days I don't stop). When I told him it upset me he said he get rid of them but when I was putting his clothes away there was hid in his draw :(

[Ben121211]

I just lost my longtime girlfriend and mother of my daughter cause I watched porn, it shouldn't be used to replace your alone time, you need to be happy too.

[mmresd]

If you feel like you are not doing enough for him, why don't you do something extra? That is always appreciated!

[talaniman]

How old are you both, and I take it you don't live together, so how is it, please, you have come up with how often he watches porn? What would stop him from watching before or after your visits? My point is that assuming is a dangerous game to play on your own mind and maybe you could be over reacting, unless something else is going on.

Its easy to blame porn for other problems or issues you may be having, and a talk between you brings facts, to answer those feelings. So discuss it, and get facts. What has changed since the time you dismissed this, and when you told him it upsets you?

[carter1994]

He says am over reacting and its his personal life and he does want he wants to do. Is this respectful? People have so many different views

[CoruptedAngel]

With what he is saying he sounds a little immature. What is his age?

[carter1994]

22 am 18

[talaniman]

Am I correct in thinking that maybe his attitude about his free time has you thinking the porn is his issue? Or he is less excited about your visits? Or maybe he was supposed to burn his collection, but he just put them out of site instead?

Sorry for all the questions, but maybe you have both been on cruise control, and failed in finding direction where this is going, maybe taking each other for granted, and the comfort zone has faded??

[CoruptedAngel]

I live with him.

Nope I don't want him to burn his collection at all. Or put them out of site.

Comfort zone still here.

I don't think I'm taking him for granted.

[talaniman]

I live with him.

Nope I don't want him to burn his collection at all. Or put them out of site.

Comfort zone still here.

I don't think I'm taking him for granted.

Why are you answering for the OP??

[ashleigh1309]

When I found out my boyfriend had been watching it I was really upset, but then /i got over it. Then eventually he asked me if I wanted to watch it with him, so I did. I watched it with him probably 3 times and I could never get into it. He is constantly asking me to watch it with him almost every night and it's very annoying and then I found out he is still watching it when he is by himself it is getting to the point to where I want to chunk his laptop right out the window. I know it's suppose to be normal, but not all the fricken time.. and we have been together for almost 4 years and we are living together.