[michaelslife]

Hi I'm really emotionally confused and hurt. My gfs been pregnant since December but the thing is I'm not sure if it’s mine because she has cheated on me before a few times and we were not dating when she got pregnant. I was in college when I found out but the date the doctor told her was within a week or two when we had sex with a condom but she was on birth control.

I'm in college and under a lot of stress. Sometimes on Facebook an ex will like my stuff and she will freak out on me and become a total *****. She’s really immature and I'm tired of having arguments especially when I can barely afford this school I go to and I have exams and she makes it hard to concentrate. I don’t really trust her that much, she’s always yelling at me for stupid stuff and I will take care of this kid either way if it’s mine. But I don’t NEED to be in a relationship to take care of my child. I'm really confused and actually tired of all the high school BS that comes out of her.

I know my family and friends are behind me on what I decide but I'm so confused on what to do. I think it’s time to make really hard decisions and I think I'm ready to make them. I pray to god that I make it out of this situation OK and that I do the right thing. Please give me some feedback.

[talaniman]

A pregnant female can be difficult to deal with, and its frrustrating, yet I find it amusing that now all of a sudden the partner you chose and possibly got pregnant is such a loser to you. I find that interesting and disturbing.

Do the best you can until you know for sure if its yours or not, and man up. You are right though, you don't have to be with her to raise your child and be a proper partner, but I think you do owe her the benefit of being there in her time of real need. It's a fine line between support, and honesty though, and you shouldn't lead her on at all about a future with her.

If you cannot find a peaceful path forward there is little choice but to keep a distance, and deal with her through her family, if they are indeed around to support her through this. Like I say it's a fine difficult line to walk until September, and beyound. Just give it your best effort to be fair, honest, and understanding of this pregnant female. Patience, and self control is what you will need.

Good luck. You will need that too!

[michaelslife]

I don't find her a loser as much as immature and maybe its because she uses the child as leverage for everything that makes me so angry. Before she got pregnant we were broken up I think that shows why I'm so mad now. I wouldn't mind staying with her if she treated me like she loved me. I supported her through everything and in return I got a someone who didn't appreciate it and gets frustrated with me when I try to help. I understand she's going through a lot but there's two people in a relationship and just because your pregnant don't mean you can treat someone anyway you want fyi

[talaniman]

Don't get any more females pregnant my friend, because some do go crazy when those hormones are out of wack, because they have a child in them. Sometimes its even worse when they are healing after child birth. That can take up to a year. Sometimes more.

Try being in the delivery room when she is in a lot of pain and having a difficult time. Bummer! This is her first, so don't take her misery lightly, she is under the influence, AND YOU SHOULD NEVER ARGUE WITH HER.

Did you talk to an older female, like your mom about this? Just trying to cue you in on this life making, life changing event. Ask your dad, bet he knows too!

[Fr_Chuck]

How old is she? But she needs and wants you there, and you really have a moral obligation ( not a legal one) to be there for her now, Being pregnant is tough and there will be lots of hormone imbalance and lots of emotions now and after the baby is born.

And sorry talk about not mature? You argue and want to break up and not try to work things out with her.

[michaelslife]

OK first thing is that I've tried to talk things over with her and everything and I don't even get mad at her till she starts being disrespectful to me. I don't want to argue with her but if someone tells me idc about my child just because I can't talk to her for three hours cause I'm studying for finals. Then I might get a tad angry. And further more she yells at me when reandom people like my post on Facebook when I've been 100% honest and loyal to her while she has cheated on me many times and had sex with another person when we were dating. I don't mind being there for her at all, but I do deserve to some respect. I may not be the most mature but to start an argument over Facebook because some girl I don't know like my status is a little over the limit on her part. And there's more to besides Facebook.