[Freddio507]

I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years now. We have a good relationship we have a lot in common and usually always get on together.

However there are times when his behaviour makes me feel unappreciated. He recently moved to London to music college, so at the moment we have a long distance relationship but manage to see each other every other week.

He rarely compliments me, in fact the whole time we have been together I can only think of two occasions where he has said I look nice. When I send him a naked picture to him I rarely get a reply, so I text him saying 'did you like it' to which he says 'yea it was nice'. I've asked him a couple of times if he thinks I'm pretty/sexy and he says he does, but is it really that hard to compliment me? Is it a bad sign that he isn't?

Also he is very involved in his music. In fact I feel that it is all he is thinking about, whenever I visit I always get the impression that its an effort to do anything with me. Like go out to get some food or go shopping. We also have never been on holiday together yet, so I suggested this year we should go somewhere, but he tells me he isn't a holiday person, that he doesn't like going away.

What should I tell him? Im so confused because we get on well but there's just this lack of interest I feel even though he is tells me he loves me and I mean a lot to him. Could it just be his general personality?

[mmresd]

Yes, some people compliment too much and some people don't compliment. If nothing is really wrong, why is it that you need constant reassurance of him liking you or that you are pretty? He is with you isn't he? Maybe we need to work on yourself esteem and confidence so that you don't need anyone else to feel the way you should, which is beautiful and sexy and whatever other type of good feelings you seem to need to feel.

[talaniman]

Its not him, its more you. You are insecure, and needy because of the distance. Do you have a happy life without him?