[BrittanyLivers]

Hey everyone how all doing me good but I am really depress B/c I am trying everything that I can to get pregnant but nothing is working at all.. We try erverything that we can but nothing seems to work for me and it reallys sucks b.c I know that I can the live that it wants the things it needs and the loving that no one can repleace and I know that a lot of all can understand where I am coming from but others don't and it really sucks b.c all my brothers and sisters are having their babies and their just so adorable and there is 8 of us.. So u know it really sucks to be the one who can't pop out a baby.. B.c I really want one more than anything but I am running out if ideas to do or what could make my chances of having kids get bigger I mean the doctors say that I am doing good. And everything . But we have been trying for over 8 months and it sucks really it does.. so if anyone can help me please let me know

[kholloway]

Before any of you answer, she is 16. I read that in another post.

[ScottGem]

Thanks for the heads up kh.

Brittany. Sure your nieces and nephews are so adorable, but you see them when its play time. You don't see all the work that goes into taking care of them. And how do you expect to feed, clothe and support a baby? Are you really willing to give up your final years of high school? Forego going to college?

Do your siblings know you are trying to emulate them? Please, for your sake, your bf's sake and the baby's sake wait until you are emotionally and financial ready to have a kid.

My initial reaction before learning your age was to ask you why haven't you discussed this with your OB-GYN. But after learning your age, your OB-Gyn would probably yell at you or tell your parents. Also, do you realize that in some areas your boyfriend could wind up in jail for statutory rape?

[carherine]

OK look getting pregnant is not what its made up to be I'm pregnant and would have rathered waited till I was in my own place and in love not puppy love I wish that I could support it with out help but I can't so I will take it one day at a time but wait till you are older

[J_9]

KH, thanks for checking that out.

Now Brittany, let me start by saying that I understand where you are coming from, that was many moons ago, but I felt like this at one time too. To tell the truth, many girls feel this way. But what you don't understand is the "behind the scenes" issues when you have a young baby.

First of all, let me ask you if you have a good paying job. You acutally need two incomes these days, so does your boyfirend have a good paying job too?

Do you realize that when you have a baby you can't hand it back over to its mother when it is sick or cranky like you can now with your nieces/nephews? Because you will be the mother and you will be the one they hand the baby over to. Are you ready to stay up all hours of the night no matter how tired you are because your little darling just won't stop crying and you don't know what to do and there is no one to call because it is the middle of the night?

Are you prepared to make life or death decisions involving medical care of the child? Do you have your own health insurance? Because if you are covered by your parents' insurance, their insurance will not cover the baby, and vaccinations, well-baby check ups, sick baby check ups, medicine, all adds up and is VERY expensive. So you should have a job that offers a good medical insurance plan first.

What are you going to do when your boyfriend walks away because he can't handle a cranky baby and a cranky girlfriend because the baby was up sick all night and you were up all night with the baby and you are just tired and want some rest, but can't get any.

And last, are you ready to be a grandmother at 32? I know it is a long way down the road for you, but if you have a baby at 16 and then your child has a baby at 16, you will be a grandmother at 32. It is simple math.

Understand that you will be doing a terribly injustice to the child just to fulfill something that is missing in your life. It is not a fair position to place an innocent human being in a place like that. The child may grow to resent you because s/he has to grow up in a broken home.

I am sorry that you are not getting the answers you were looking for here, but we have all been 16 before, we are all much older and wiser now. Do the right thing by this innocent person and wait until you are stable in life, married, and can afford to raise a child.

Just think long and hard about this decision, because once you make your mind up on something this serious there is no changing your mind.

[l99057j]

Brittany, maybe your post is pregnant... it was missing a lot of periods. You're too young, and I suspect you only posted so you could sit back and watch the fallout.

But, if you were serious, you definitely need to wait until you are older and wiser. You will have many years to raise a child, you only get to be 16 once. Make the most of it and don't try to take on that kind of responsibility this soon.

[buggage]

OK, honestly, are adults the only people that watch Maury, or any of the other day time talk shows? Because, it would seem to me, that if they did watch those shows, and see the stories of real life girls their age, they wouldn't be wanting to get preggy so badly. There are little 13 year old girls going on there, " I want a baby, and there aint nothing you can do to change my mind" Maury puts them in a room, each with a infant, and they are the sole providers for those kids for 24 hours... they come out " I dont want to have a baby, I am not ready for that yet!" Then you have the girls who go on there " Hes my babys daddy, but he refuses to believe it" and the guy runs around calling her a whore, and that the baby looks nothing like him, and he doesn't want anything to do with her, he's found a new girl that he hasn't gotten pregnant yet, and he doesn't want anything to do with the kid. They do a test, and he is or he isn't. But either way, even if he was in their lives, how much money can a teenager really earn towards caring for a baby. As a teen I never had money. I had to ask my parents for money anytime I wanted anything. And of course, the parents are still trying to raise these teens,and suddenly they have another kid to take care of. Its not like it's their grandkid, its now their kid, because they have to do all the work. Why? Because the teen is too young, they have a job at burgerking maybe. They have school. They have no idea what the real world is like. Every girl at some point in her life wants a baby. But it's a measure of responsibility and maturity that teaches that girl to wait, to hold off until they know they are ready. Some do. Some jump in head first thinking it will be all fun and games and the baby will be happy and cute all the time. But then at 1 am. And 2 am. And 3 am. And 4 am... onn and on every night, that baby starts to not be so cute.and of course, they are probably alone doing it too. My hubby still doesn't like having to get up in the middle of the night for our son. And he is 22! And our son 2! Kids are so wonderful, and being a parent is the greatest calling in the world. BUT, you need to embark on the journey of parenthood when you know that it will be a situation in which you can be fair, protective, as well as loving to a small person who depends on you for EVERYTHING. And you need to know that you can handle it.

[ghost56]

At 16, you really don't know what bringing a baby up is all about, I have had 3 babies and believe me, I could have cheerfully thrown my kids out of the window, when they had cried constantly for 4 nights on a run, no stopping them, they would sleep all day and would wake up and cry all night, not easy when you have a home to look after. Please wait until you are much older. It isn't all fun and games. Then when that child grows up, your worries really start.