[pb123]

Depressed girlfriend broke up with me:

To give a little background: I was dating my now ex girlfriend for almost two years. About two to three months ago she told me she had serious depression and saw her doctor who prescribed her medication. She did not like talking about her depression and I told her I would do everything I could to be there for her and help her work through it no matter what. Over time I noticed there was less and less affection and the intimacy died down. When I tried talking to her about it she said its due to her depression and things she use to enjoy are no longer as enjoyable and she doesn't like being touched. This was all hard to hear but I told her that if that's what she needs I'll give her the space required.

Last week I talked again with her and said that I've noticed how different things are between us. I said it seems like we're just friends in this relationship and the romance is gone. She said that its not me its her and that I don't deserve to be treated like this because of how good I am to her and she recognizes this. I told her this sounds like a typical breakup speech but she said she doesn't want to break up with me. Then this last week I noticed less and less contact from her and we normally talk/text multiple times a day even after the depression started.

Then two nights ago she came over and said we need to break up. I was completely shocked and devastated and did not see it coming. The whole time I thought we were working things through and we still had something between us under the depression. She told me she still loves me but that her feelings for me have changed. I asked if its because she just feels different about me or if it's the depression in which case I want to try and still work through it. She says she doesn't know which is why she wants to break up.

Now I'm completely heartbroken and going through torture and unbearable pain. I'm still crazy about her and completely in love but I can't do anything about it. I know I shouldn't count on her getting back together with me but it's so hard to accept this as the end.

If anyone has experienced a similar situation, can relate, or just thinks they have helpful advice in general I would really appreciate the support right now. I'm going through the toughest time of my life and feel like the walls are closing in and I'm losing it. I know time will sort things out but right now I need closure and want answers I seemingly can't have.

[elephant78]

Don`t feel too sorry, you won`t accomplish anything by that way. Control your emotions, don`t let them control you.. everything will work out just fine as long as you clear your mind and don`t think about people whom you can give love, but they don`t give it back..

[mmresd]

She has done you a favor, now you don't have to worry about her issues. Concentrate on your life, work on yourself, keep busy, and soon when things are going better for YOU, you will find someone who compliments you, instead of bring you down with her.

[talaniman]

Harshness warning

She has been emotionally and mentally suffering, and all you can think of are your feelings? You have known of this suffering, yet you are shocked it has progressed to a break up. You are not clinically qualified to help, and must let this go, so she can get the help she needs. Hurts like hell, and sucks to high heaven, But you have to leave this alone and not be selfish.

[none12345]

There are many possible answers to why she is behaving the way she is. She could be cheating (which I have a feeling she might be but don't quote me), she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, or she's really depressed and needs to get her problems resolved. Either way, been there done that, the best thing to do now is to cut her out of your life completely meaning don't talk to her so you can heal and move on and try to see your life is so much more than just waiting for 1 person.