[fbmasterton]

I have this guy friend who says he is bisexual. He only seems gay on a superficial level (in that he is in a choir, likes musical theater and likes to dress in drag) and he has not had many sexual experiences with other guys. But he has had many with girls. He even had an female f-buddy. However, whenever we hang out, all he wants to do is cuddle. We have been friends since kindergarten and every time I sleep over at his house we pick beds to sleep in. Usually, he will offer to sleep in the guest room and let me sleep in his bed (which is a heated water bed and extremely comfy). But lately, once we say goodnight and I get into bed, he gets in with me and wants to cuddle with me. Now, I am not even slightly attracted to him (partly because I have known him all my life and partly because he is so overly affectionate) and cuddling with him is extremely uncomfortable for me. I'm not sure what he wants or what he is getting by cuddle with me. Is it just that he wants some kind of affection or emotional connection that he isn't getting from his f-buddy? Or is he trying to make me his next one? I want to know what is going on in his head so I know how to approach telling him that I am uncomfortable cuddle with him.

[shecried]

I think you need to tell him your uncomfortable with the cuddling and ask him what he really means when he does it. If he says he doesn't mean it in a sexual way an your still uncomfortable with it then tell him to stop. But if it is because of sexual reasons then tell him your not interested and that if he doesn't stop then your going to stop sleeping over

[talaniman]

You're friends who sleep over, you should be able to talk to him honestly.