[demo13]

Ok, so I'll try to make this short as I can without missing too many details. Please bear with me because I really need some advice and reassuring.

My ex and I were introduced by mutual friends. We hit it off immediately. Everything was perfect,we were making plans for us and joking about future and being old,but as time was passing by we start having small arguments over her sister she couldn't bear the fact that she doesn't have boyfriend and all that,adding to that I start being insecure and bit jealous.

In middle of January we found out that she is pregnant she was two week's gone into it,and the bum we had a big fight she needed space and time and I give her no matter that I was losing myself like I am doing it now ,the fight was over something what I had nothing to do but over my past mistakes she just didn't believe so I admit it,I admit something what I had nothing to do for the sake of the baby and because I love her so much.

We got back together but she wasn't the same,her hormones were out the space and I just couldn't adjust to that new situation,I was asking for love she couldn't give to me,I try making little presents and surprises but every time I was let down from her side,nothing what I was doing was good,so I start question her love toward me.

She turn around tell me that she doesn't know how she feels that she love me as a person but she is not sure about other kind of love that she needs time to realize how she feels toward me and that the day when our big fight happened her feeling fall down for me and that it will take time to recover and to forgive,day by day she start texting me less and less that's understandable over condition she was feeling sick and all that.

I try to be there when she needed me but we fall down 4 days ago,she said that I was too needy and that I am pushing things and she clearly told me that she needs time to realize how she feels toward me and that at this moment I am too much for her...

She is now 9 and a half weeks pregnant. I don't know what to do ,I feel like everything is gone,she doesn't want to talk to me at all ,she is very stubborn so is not helping at all that,we where together around 7 months,she said that we are over but she will let me know about appointments and all that.

Is there any chance when the baby comes along that I can win her back or should I just focus on our kid now?

[Aquachx]

You should read what you wrote. You are pushing her to give you an answer that you want instead of letting her decide on her own. Because she is pregnant your going to have to be there for her. You should respect her wishes in having space. She needs time to think and miss you. Call her up or email her letting her know you understand she's in a difficult position that you don't want to add more stress so you'll giver her some space. And actually do that! Only contact her about your child. If you want to go the appointment with her let her know. When you push someone the natural reaction is to back off. Keep yourself busy. Do research on how to take care of a newborn. Be paitent and allow her to come to you. And when see does don't get excited and act like your in a relationship again. That will make her run again. Good luck!

[talaniman]

You idiot. How dare you only think of yourself, your needs, your wants, while your female is going through a life changing event. Find an older more experienced guy to guide you, and forget about love romance and her meeting your needs and support her through this experience.

You darn fool you better grow up, and learn to give selflessly to her, and your coming child, that you have to raise, and support for the next 18 years. Sorry to be harsh, as I know you are new to this MAN things, but you better grow up, and handle your responsibilities, and obligations you have made.

Play time is over kid, so get real FAST!!

P.S.

Be a great dad, whether she wants you back or not. You will be PARENTS soon. Good luck, you will need it.