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    Mar 19, 2012, 06:17 PM
    Why am I afraid to have sex?
    I am a 19 year old female virgin who has been dating a guy for almost two months. He is very attractive, and funny, and we get on well together (even though he has aspergers) and I definitely like him. But he is only my second ever boyfriend and I am afraid to go beyond second base. I have seen images of male genitals before but never actually gotten that far with a boy, and it sort of scares me. I am afraid to take that extra step and to have sex. Is there something wrong with me? I am attracted to my boyfriend, I just am almost dreading seeing his . I'm just scared. Any advice?
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    Mar 19, 2012, 07:12 PM
    There is nothing wrong with you. Your body is telling you that you are not ready yet. And that is a GOOD thing. You LISTEN to your body and hear what it is telling you. Too many young women these days do not listen to their bodies.

    Just be patient. You will know the right time, and so will he.
    Good luck.
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    Mar 19, 2012, 07:23 PM
    You have known him 8 weeks and he is a second boyfriend, I wonder why it is ever being considered at this point, Are you really to be a mother, he is ready to support a child?
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    Mar 19, 2012, 08:32 PM
    Relax, sex is not something you do with out a lot of thought, and consideration. And two months is to soon to know if he is the one to experience your first time with. There is no hurry and if you are not ready, that's reason enough for you both to wait until you are.

    If he cannot, then he isn't the one, simple as that.
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