[Liz_Awa]

So this is going to look super long so if you're not in the mood don't even get started.. It's complicated..

I'm gay! I'm an Arab! And I'm a very optimistic person.. So here is the thing.. I stayed with my first girlfriend for 3 years.. A long distance relationship by the way.. But then it was too much for me.. During our break up.. I met this amazing straight girl.. Who knew about my sexuality and she had a boyfriend by then.. She was my friend's friend.. So we started to get close.. As in I was talking to her about my life and my issues and she was doing the same.. I was kind of the first gay girl she's ever met so I guess for her it was interesting.. So we started to get closer and closer.. Getting online and talking for HOURS without even getting bored..

After about two weeks from that we kissed in a truth or dare game while drunk.. There was definitely sexual tension since I've told her about lesbian sexual lives and I don't know.. For some reason there was chemistry.. So after that kiss.. We tried to act like nothing happened (oh.. By the way.. By then she was single of course) but it didn't work out.. We started making out and getting more attached to each other as time was moving too slow for us..

Two weeks from that kiss we hooked up and we were head over heals for each other.. I mean.. You can never imagine such love.. I've never been treated like that before.. She was knowing exactly how to treat me as I was doing the same for her.. As days passed by.. We were the perfect couple.. Never had a fight.. Always happy... Like ALWAYS happy.. Just seeing her face would make my day in the morning.. Our sex life was perfect.. (I'm talking for both of us)..

But then.. She's got that "straight" thing.. She wouldn't admit that she's gay..
Because she's not.. I don't think a lot would understand that.. But she's straight.. She fell for me and as she said.. If we're over she'll never be with a girl before.. "because it's you" that's what she always tells me.

We've been together for almost 7 months so far but she's having cold feet.. Society and parents and friends.. We kept our relationship as a secret.. Only a couple of friends knew about it.. I'm sorry I'm yapping around but I'm kind of confused myself.. She's telling me she can't take it anymore.. She's told me that I'm the perfect lover for her (a word she's never even told her ex boyfriends or anyone else) she told me that she's never going to find anyone who would treat her the way I do.. Yet.. She wants this to be over..

Honestly.. I love her too much to see her suffer like this.. For me.. She's the love of my life.. She made me realise things about myself I've never knew before.. God damn it I write poetry now! But only for her.. And its actually good..
She's an amazing person and again.. I never want to see her sad.. I know that the right thing to do is to end it before it gets even harder..
The thing is.. There is NO reason to end it.. No fights.. No arguments.. No nothing.. We're perfect.. But the burden is killing us.. How in hell am I going to get over her.. My friends told me not to get involved with a straight girl but I couldn't not to follow my heart.. How any of us is going to survive.. We've talked and decided we want to stay friends.. How can I see her and not want to kiss her.. Please help.. I'm collapsing

[Fr_Chuck]

First if she is having sex with you, she is not "straight" she is either lesbian or bi. If she was straight, she would not have any interest in sex with you.

She is merely scared what society will say,

[talaniman]

Having to keep things secret is a terrible burden to carry, and she did it for you. Since she cannot handle that secret, leave her alone to wrestle with her dilemma and come to terms with her BI sexuality. She is not only confused by it, but also doesn't want to go against everyone, family, friends, or any one to know that part of her.

Its not her, its you who must find a way to respect that need in her and know she isn't ready for what you want. It sucks, but if its as you say, LOVE, and not just LUST, or NEED, then you will do what's right by her, and let her go.

Being just friends, after sharing love, is darn near impossible, and down right miserable. So let go cleanly so you both can heal, and get yourselves under control. Being gay, or bi, or straight makes no difference when it comes to a break up, nor do the reasons matter. All that matter is that you both deal with this matter in a way that benefits you both, and NO CONTACT fits that requirement.

[Liz_Awa]

Thank you Talaniman for your reply.. but considering our relationship.. it will be nearly impossible NOT to stay friends.. we are still too attached to each other.. I'm not saying we will become friends in a blink of an eye.. it will take a lot of time to get used to the idea of seeing each other as friends..
As for Fr_Chuck I'm sorry but you are wrong.. She's straight girl who's had an exception for ONE girl..
Thank you both for your replies..

[talaniman]

You under estimate her situation, but over time she will have her own ways of dealing with her situation. That's like saying she will never meet another female who turns her on. Its likely you both will, and all that matters is how you handle it.

Why do you think that some who we presumed were straight for decades come out much later? Many conform to be accepted, as you yourself have to some extent.