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    Rachelrang Posts: 45, Reputation: 0
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    Mar 11, 2012, 07:10 PM
    Family issues!
    Merged for additional background.


    My family is complicated. I no longer live with my family, but I really don't want to lose my parents again. I grew up the first five years of my life with my mom dad and sister. At age 5 my parents could no longer afford both of us, and so I lived with my uncle until I was 13. When he OD on meth (other stuff happened during that time I don't wish to talk about... let's just say what he did to ANY girl in the house was very illegal), I was sent back to mom and dad.

    On my 16th birthday my parents divorced. I ran away shortly after, and moved in with a woman and her daughter. Me and her daughter had dated before I moved in, and broke up two days after. It was just to odd we acted like sisters after that, and became sisterly close. 4 months later we where kicked out. I went to my moms and found out she was dating a woman that was my BFFS mother. It shocked me. We moved, and custody was split in half with my dad.

    I was sent back and forth till I turned 18, and left. I haven't talking to them except for 4 times since I left. I really want to reconnect but... things have been messed up for years...

    Merged together for the whole story, and facts.

    If its so bad?!

    Ok people keep asking me why I have no contact with my mother over hers and my dads Divorce even though I "should be happy" that my mom is a lesbian as well. Well my mom and dad raised me and my sister to be homophobic my mom would never let me go stay at friends for sleep overs and I wasn't allowed A, and I mean A sleep over till I was 16. And that was the day my dad left IN FRONT OF MY FRIENDS. I had not known about the Divorce till dad tossed his things in the car and drove away. I don't have contact with my father either they both hurt me to where I've never been able to talk to them about anything. My aunt is more of a mother to me and my papa is more of a father but its what ever. I live in my own place with my 22month old godson and I'm content
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    Mar 12, 2012, 07:30 PM
    Sorry we make our own choices in life, and not having sleep overs does not cause one to be anything. Some people never have them. Next as you grow and make friends, and make your own choices, you find friends who may be gay, and make your own choices, You want to blame them for everything, great, but sorry most people will not buy it
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    Mar 12, 2012, 08:02 PM
    Im not telling everything that happened during my childhood this was just a tip of my rant. If you look at some of my other questions you will get more of my life story
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    Mar 13, 2012, 06:47 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Rachelrang View Post
    Im not telling everything that happened during my childhood this was just a tip of my rant. If you look at some of my other questions you will get more of my life story

    That's not how this site works.

    You have legal custody of a 22-month old?
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    Mar 13, 2012, 05:38 PM
    As you have noticed both your questions were put together so we can all get the whole story (or most of it) so no need to make new questions under different titles about the same subject.

    You have been on quite a roller coaster life for one so young, and I think the thing now is overcoming all those emotions and steering your own path. I know you want a connection, and answers for many questions, but what important now is to build a good life for yourself, and leave those questions from others unanswered for now.

    Maybe in the future when you are stronger emotionally, and wiser, you may indeed reconnect and understand your parents were on a roller coaster ride themselves and as powerless as you were and are to control anything at all.

    Sad for sure, but focus on you, and let the rest go for now. You can't force answer that are not there, so stuff just happened. Don't be mad or resentful at the mistakes made by your human parents, just be motivated to do better for yourself, and your godson, and not be distracted by a wacky tragic past.

    I think you will because generally people who can vent through ranting, regroup to thrive and survive rather quickly, and you have already survived much.
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    Mar 13, 2012, 05:52 PM
    Seems like things are finally starting to look up. It is time to let the past go and to start a fresh life, one in which you are filled with happiness.
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    Mar 13, 2012, 08:09 PM
    Yes his parents are in jail and I have legal custody until he reaches 18

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