[Eternal_essence]

My friend, Jess, and I had been together for nine years. Back in elementary, we were very alike in what we like and how we see things.

We went to different high school and had different experiences but we made sure that we have time for each other. Those days, our hobbies grew together. In a sense, we grew a whole lot weirder than what would most people accept. We're fangirls.

Then when we went to university, our circle of friends were very different from one another. Jess made friends with people who are more conscious of how they blend in in society. I became close to people who share the same hobby and interests as me. My circle became more confined than hers. Now, she is able to relate well to those she only met while I'm pushed to the sideline to merely watch. This happens a lot of times when we're together in different events. I know I'm not the talkative type but it really depends on what topic we are on.

Recently, she is receiving a lot of praises from other people and even those who are near me. I would be lying if I say that I truly am proud for her but my insecurities just gets in the way. I can't even be true to her like before. It's like all I've been saying when we are together are a bunch of lies. But I don't want to lose her. What should I do to fix this? I'm really confused right now...

[odinn7]

Friends grow apart unfortunately and it's an incredibly sad thing. I have managed to remain friends with one person I was friends with in school but at the same time, we don't hang out all that much because neither of us are the same as we were. I had another great friend that we were exactly alike but time and distance changed each of us and now I never talk to him anymore. It's sad but it's a part of life. People grow and don't remain the same.

This situation of yours is not uncommon. Your friend is different yet you still want to stay in contact. You either need to try to fit in or maybe just don't do stuff as a group. The main thing you need to do is realize that your friends life took a different path than yours and you should be happy for them at least. I understand the jealousy part but you need to search yourself and figure out why you're not happy for this person.