[Molson94]

Like I said in the title, she dumped me after a year and 7 months. At first it was for an obvious reason and it needed to be done. And it was so I can change some things and get over stuff that I needed to get over. We agreed that when the time comes that I accept that I've changed then I tell her and we would see what happens from there. Well I told her that I've changed but she didn't even think about getting back together with me. Instead she gave me another reason why she broke up with me. She said that she wanted to be able to live her life and be independent. She also said that we changed who we were in the process of us dating and it wasn't a good change. I felt like we did change but I thought it was for the best. But now I'm hearing something new from someone else, along with everything stated previously. Apparently she doesn't want to be a bad girlfriend. Before I heard this I was sure that it was an excuse to break it off or it was just not meant to be for the time being so I was set on letting go, or at least trying. But when I heard that she didn't want to be a bad girlfriend my mind twisted on me and so did my heart. I'm not sure whether to talk to her about it. Currently we have no communications which makes this harder. We never see each other in school anymore. I know what most adults are going to say "youre young you should explore and see what's out there." Call me crazy but when I get older I don't want to say "i wish I would have" especially when it comes to this girl. She's beautiful, smart, funny, and just overall amazing. I don't want to lose her. But I don't know what to do about this. I need some help. Please.

[yourmothersir]

I wish I had something profound to say... some set of special words you could say to make her change her mind... It sounds like she wants to "live her life." The only thing I can think is a nice letter, flowers, a gift... but that may end up in the trash...
She sounds like she just wants to be single... If you interrupt this process she would resent you forever... I'm not saying don't try, but you don't want to appear to be a stalker...
I think this may be over for you... and now you are really going to have to accept it. I am not going to give you any BS you are young you will get over it because I know this is hurting like hell right now... but you're going to have to go through the stages of grief... One day you will find the right one... I do want you to enjoy being single though... there is so much to do. I've been in a relationship for over two years and I miss being single some times... Sometimes dating makes you forget about your friends and how therapeutic time with them can be.

[Stellaw]

My wife is always like that up to now. She would ignore me and I'll know something's up so I'll ask ask her. And then she'll say that she doesn't like the way I'm treating her because she thinks she's not my top priority
So I talk to her and tell her that I would change and then when she
Gets what she wants from me, she'll open her mouth again and say that
There are also other things.

Relationships should always have great communication between parties.
The reason why my wife can't stop talking once she started is because
She didn't get the chance to talk about it in the first place. Maybe, your
Ex is also like my wife.

I guess the best thing to do now is let her vent. Listen to her and make her feel that you had no clue she felt that way and also make her know that she should have told you because you'll always be willing to change your ways to
Have a better relationship with her.

How long has it been since you two have broken up? Give her some time and of course respect her decision if she has really made up her mind. You can't force anyone to do what you want them to do. You have to respect her decision and let her be happy.