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StrawbsMuffin · Mar 3, 2012, 06:50 PM

I have known my boyfriend for about 3 years, And on 20th May last year he started touching me and cuddling me under a duvet watching a film. From there he told me he loved me, I've never been sure from the start how I feel though. This is my first proper relationship.

We have been arguing a lot recently and a lot of it probably is just me but we are never able to make love properly because we live with my dad and when my dad works my boyfriend does. My boyfriend's mates just turn up at the house to hang out with us at mine. He doesn't understand I don't want his friends around so much, because it's never been a problem to him.

Also it's the baby thing I'm 18 and He's 25 and doesn't want a baby but I really do! He tells me to think about the responsibility and that's what I've always done. I know I'm ready and I'm at the point where I can't wait any longer. He wants to wait 3 years or so and I don't think I can. When I talk to him about it he says he couldn't afford it because he's in a lot of debt, and the money he's saving each payday is going toward his driving lessons he wants to take.

To me it seems he thinks about himself rather than anyone else, he could be paying the money he saves toward his debts but no? There's much more but I better stop dragging' it on. I'd appreciate any advice you could give, And anyone that wants to judge me on our age difference or that I'm too young to want a baby can take there comments elsewhere because I really can't be dealing with them.

Thanks.

lilvballstar · Mar 3, 2012, 07:38 PM

My opinion on this would be to talk to him more about your future together. If you are even thinking that he might not be right for you, you should not try to have a baby with him anytime soon.
My advice to you is you wait a couple of years to figure everything out and if you guys are still together and you both are ready to have a baby then you should.

talaniman · Mar 3, 2012, 08:44 PM

You want a child, he doesn't. Wait until you both do.

StrawbsMuffin · Mar 4, 2012, 08:23 AM

Thanks for the advice, I'll talk to him when he get's back from Arizona on Wednesday. He went on a lads holiday for 3 weeks and took my dad!! Not impressed. Doesn't help though when he's away for so long with the thinking!

Fr_Chuck · Mar 4, 2012, 08:31 AM

To be honest I have to agree with boyfriend, you are only 18 and a baby does no make things better, it puts a lot more stress on a relationship. And at 18 you need to learn to be a couple and be in a adult level relationship as you will change over the next few years.

Next to your question, no two people are meant to be, a relationship requires lots of work, and is not easy even with couples that get along well.

And until you work out the issues of his mate, the money and build a better relationship a baby is the last thing you need to throw in